Living a Life with Spirit

Prepared Remarks for Elimination of Poverty Public Hearing

2010-03-25T10:29:00.004-05:00

The following are my prepared remarks for the Elimination of Poverty pubic hearing, February 22, 2010. I hope that these thoughts might spur you to seriously consider how we can address poverty in our country.

In Peace,

Lane

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Ladies and Gentlemen,

Thank you for this opportunity to speak today. And thank you for holding this meeting in Danville. I don't think you could have picked an area that is more representative of the problems facing the people of Illinois.

I applaud the creation of this commission, and commend each of you for serving. Reading the article in the News-Gazette today, I nodded in agreement with each of the bullet-pointed goals. Unfortunately, I don't think it will be enough, if it's all we do. Before I offer thoughts on that, however, let me tell you where I currently stand.

I am 53 years old, and have never received government assistance of any kind, even during times of unemployment or underemployment. Although I could easily qualify for Native American tribal affiliation, subsequently receiving significant benefits, I choose not to do so. My reason is simple: there's not enough to go around to everyone who needs and deserves help, and there are many who are in greater need than me.

Two years ago I, along with members of my band Deeper Blues, founded Danville Foodstock. Our slogan is "serving food - and hope! - to those in need." We have raised tens of thousands of dollars in support of the Danville Area Food Pantry. In January, 2009, we began a series of monthly free dinners open to all, regardless of need. In our first year, we served over 2,500 meals to our neighbors, many of them delivered to seniors and handicapped individuals unable to attend in person. We now have a strong volunteer crew that continues to grow, and numerous local businesses that sponsor our efforts.

Also in January, 2009, I began to see signs that I would soon be a target of cutbacks at the company for which I worked. On March 1st, my company converted me against my will to a sub-contractor, thus taking away my health care and other benefits, also reducing my income by half while adding an extra self-employment tax burden. By June 1st, I had lost the other half of my pay, and was expected to live off of a paltry commission worth about $50 a week, for approximately 30 hours of work. Folks, that's less than $2 per hour.

Because I had been converted to a subcontractor, I was no longer eligible for unemployment. Because I had made too much money the year before, I was ineligible for VA assistance, or other medical assistance. I was out at the very end of a limb that was showing a strong chance of breaking, and I had no safety net. The first time I could have really used a hand up from a government program, I didn't qualify.

By the way, I should also mention that I got married in December, 2008, only months before I began to lose income. I'm sure you'll agree that's NOT how to being a marriage.

I've been luckier than many, because I have managed to barely scrape through the dark times. I am now involved in two start-ups that show great promise, and have restarted my business consulting career. So while I am still catching up, I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. And as long as it's not yet another economic train barreling down on me, I'll be fine. But my marriage has suffered, and so has my health.

Some have asked why I continued to donate so much time and, until April, money into Danville Foodstock. Again, my reason is simple: there are many in greater need - parents who are struggling to feed their children. Young singles - twenty-somethings just out of college - who can't find a job. Seniors living on crackers. Today, one in four children will go to bed hungry tonight. In the Danville area alone, that translates to thousands. I mean no disrespect, but I don't need to search another continent to find people who need my help, whether it be in the form of money, time or compassion.

So. Now that you know a bit about me, let me offer my ideas: First, let me offer three ideas to directly address the question of what our social programs can do to help reduce poverty:

1. Re-engineer our social programs so that they provide a track toward self-sustainability. As soon as a person comes to any agency for help, their situation should be assessed. Why is this person in need, and what can be done to address the underlying cause?

2. Offer immediate job placement assistance, training or retraining. Don't make the recipient wait any longer than is absolutely necessary.

3. If nothing else, give them a labor job to earn a paycheck and other assistance.

These are good steps we can take to eliminate waste when we don't work to get someone back on their feet as quickly as possible. And by setting strict guidelines for who receives assistance - those that work or are truly unable to do so get help - those who want to live on a handout when they don't need to, don't. I believe that, in the long run, however, the more we reorient our programs to helping people live with dignity, help them to live productive lives, the fewer people we will see who have a sense of entitlement.

I say this because we have a long-term problem of hopelessness and futility permeating our lowest income brackets. Many of these people look at the world and see that they are separated from the American Dream with no chance of ever attaining it. In the face of that hopelessness, some do begin to believe that they deserve the handouts because it's all they can ever see getting. Give them a better chance of climbing the community ladder, and I think you'll see a lot of people grabbing for the higher rungs - and living happier, more fulfilling and productive lives.

As I noted earlier, however, I don't believe this will be enough. I believe we need to reinvigorate our sense of community, our understanding that a rising tide lifts all boats. We are so busy reveling in the "rugged individualist" image, that we have forgotten that it was banding together for a common cause that created this country in the first place. It started with like-minded individuals, but quickly grew to the thirteen colonies themselves joining to create a "more perfect union" with liberty and justice for all.

Certainly we had great individuals in our history, and we still have some today - leaders with vision who say, "follow me to a better place." But even they knew they couldn't do it alone - it takes a community working together to achieve great things.

We learned the art of representative democracy from the Iroquois Confederacy, choosing it as our form of government to ensure that all would have a voice, even the lowest among us. Embedded in that Iroquois social construct, as with many if not most of the other Native American nations, was the belief that one's service to the community was the measure of one's stature in that community. A person could not lead until they had proven their willingness to serve the greater good.

In 1964, Robert Greenleaf took early retirement from ATT where had worked for forty years to create the Center for Applied Ethics. He coined the phrase servant-leader to define what he considered to be the ultimate leader - one who would serve the interests of others, ensuring their success as a path to his own. He found numerous servant-leaders among our founding fathers, and among the many great people in our nation's history. We had already experienced Servant-Leadership, but had lost it. Greenleaf sought to bring it back.

I should note that I consider myself a servant-leader. My own motto, built on Greenleaf's vision, is that I am a servant first, servant always. I am honored to serve on the board of the Spears Center for Servant-Leadership, named after Larry Spears, who carried the torch as Primary Champion of servant-leadership upon Greenleaf's death.

What baffles me is not that servant-leadership is the same as NA leadership, albeit within a different cultural context. It's not that our leaders - in both business and government - forgot it in the greedy pursuit of wealth and power. It's not even that, in the face of direct proof that servant-leadership leads to greater profits and a more peaceful, productive society, many of our leaders choose to continue chasing an illusion. No, what baffles me is that we have forgotten it.

We have forgotten that our community bonds are what enrich our lives. We have forgotten how we once worked together in numerous ways to the greater good of all and prospered because of it. We have forgotten much of what made us great.

At the same time, for the past half a century, which is not all that long, really, we have turned our backs on the common wealth, as it was once called, and is still immortalized in the names of many states, in pursuit of personal gain as a means to fulfillment. We've been assisted in this retraining, but ultimately it is a personal choice whether to worship wealth for its own sake.

Yet virtually every religion, spiritual teaching and original life-way for thousands of years has taught that we find our greatest fulfillment in the service of others. We feel best when we have a positive impact on the lives of others.

"Whatsoever you do for the least among you, it's as if you did it for Me."

"When you give a feast, invite the poor, the sick, the hungry. Then, you shall be rewarded."

So says Jesus, whom so many claim to follow. Jesus was the ultimate servant-leader, and he often spoke about the fulfillment we find in serving others. We need our sense of community again, and our sense of service to the good of all. We need to return to our roots, nourishing our children with the ethics that gave us purpose and fulfillment.

I've probably spoken for longer than was fair, and I apologize for taking so much time. So that I can close more quickly, I will deliver via email some of the things I've written on this subject, including a copy of my essay, Learning Servant-Leadership from Native America - Again, which will be published within a year or so, in The Spirit of Servant-Leadership, the latest volume in a highly-regarded series of anthologies that began with, and continues to include, essays by Greenleaf himself.

In this essay, I offer specific ways that we might rebuild our society to return to our ideals, perhaps even to improve upon them by learning to follow the right kind of leaders - servant-leaders - those who will truly serve the interests of the common good.

We need politicians on both sides of the aisle who are truly interested in the needs of those they represent instead of representing the interests of the very few. We need them to work together, like it or not, to solve the many serious issues facing us, instead of engaging in all-out war to destroy each other and prevent the other party from governing, instead of constantly worrying about elections and sound bites, and lobbyists, instead of seeing who can devolve our political debate even lower than it has fallen. When our leaders can only encourage us to yell at each other instead of working together for the good of all of us, from the least to the greatest among us, it's time we picked better leaders. I believe that servant-leaders are the best kind of leaders to follow.

I don't ask you to agree with me yet. I do ask you to learn more about the philosophy and carefully consider its benefits. I believe that, if you do, you will agree with me. And I believe it will of great help to you as you craft the strategies to improve our social programs.

Thank you again for your time. And again, I commend you. Your is a difficult task, and an essential one. God Bless you all, and may you serve the greater good.

The Dangers of an American Theocracy

2010-03-19T17:51:00.003-05:00

It boggles my mind is how the same people who rant about theocracies in other countries can turn right around and try to turn America into their version of Christian theocracy. And to be honest, I'm pretty sick and tired of reading about Glenn Beck's latest tirade, whatever it may be. In fact, I'm pretty sick of all politicians who claim Christianity trying to shove their version of religion down my throat.

One of the great things about America is our freedom to practice (or not!) the religion of our choice, without fear of reprisal. Our founding fathers were wise to separate church and state. How else to keep committing a sin from becoming the breaking of a law, punishable in the judicial system? So when certain people start screaming that those who oppose their HypoChristian view of the world are not American, I admit to getting a bit upset. How dare they? America was founded on the principle of allowing each one of us the right to choose how we worship. How can any peaceful, positive life way be misconstrued as un-American?

Anyone who has read this blog knows that I promote harmony, respect and tolerance among all people. I promote compassion as the foundation of a spiritual life. I have studied the Bible in depth, along with the religious texts of many other life ways. Nowhere do I find justification for what's going on today. Nowhere do I read Jesus saying we should run roughshod over those who don't agree with us.

And yet, that is exactly what Beck is doing. Having encouraged listeners to abandon their church, Beck came under fire from Jim Wallis, a progressive Evangelist. Now, Beck's staff is doing everything they can to dig up dirt on Wallis. I guess when you have no way to counter the message, you attack the messenger in an attempt to distract everyone.

For me, it won't work. I am far too familiar with both parties in this debate to believe anything Beck has to say. He can rant all he wants, but to me he's just one more hypocrite pretending to be something he isn't - namely Christian.

Christians don't attack others with whom the disagree. Christians don't demonize or ridicule their opponents. Christians don't twist the truth and outright lie in order to score points.

Glenn Beck has demonstrated beyond a shadow of a doubt why it is so very important to resist turning America into a theocracy. Because if people like him had their way, I'd be put to death for refusing to convert to their twisted form of faith.

I choose to live a life with Spirit. I choose to reach out to serve my fellow Man. I choose to follow the teachings to the best of my ability, learning from the masters of peace and harmony. I will not follow a raging, angry, combative hypocrite.

Theocracy of any kind is dangerous. A violent, narrow-minded theocracy is the most dangerous of all. If you don't believe me, ask the Iranians.

In peace,

Lane

When Compassion Becomes UnChristian

2010-03-14T14:46:00.003-05:00

By now, you've probably heard about Glenn Beck's unChristian rant calling for people to leave their church if it promoted social and/or economic justice. Many, more prominent leaders have called Glenn out for his statements, including Jim Wallis of the faith-based social justice organization, Sojourners. Everyone is asking the same question:

When did compassion become unChristian?

The answer is that it hasn't. Unfortunately, there are many who will listen to him. There are many who will do exactly as directed. This is a danger to our society, and perhaps more importantly, to our own spirituality. Because when one's spirituality is taken over by the most unspiritual concepts and philosphies, we remove ourselves from the Sacred, and walk away from our most important teachings.

Social justice and compassion is a foundational Christian value. In fact, it's older than Christianity itself. Consider the Jewish origins of the tithe.

Each year, farmers set aside one tenth of their crops against future needs. For two years, the tithe would go to the local community storage. The third year, it would go to the national storage. This three-year process would repeat again, and was then followed by the seventh year in which the farmer would put the tithe in his own long-term storage.

First the local communal needs were met. Then the national. Finally, the personal needs were attended. You could look at this and see a similarity between this and caring for those in need in today's society. Yet Beck and his hypocritical ilk will tell you that caring for others through our governmental institutions has no basis in faith. Really?, I wonder. Which version of the Bible is he reading, I ask, The Bible for Selfish, Greedy, Self-centered Hypocrites?

The Bible I have studied for over forty-five years is in direct conflict with Beck's lunacy. The Jesus I know, and whose teachings I do my best to follow, would have a field day lecturing Beck on his many lies and his outright disrespect for God.

Kowtowing to a lunacracy is not Christian. Turning your back on your fellow man is not spiritual. Encouraging others to eschew the teachings in favor of selfishness is not noble.

And none of it has anything to do with living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Overcoming Fear

2010-03-06T12:10:00.002-06:00

For many, fear is a controlling factor of their lives. Sometimes, it's the same for me. Overcoming fear can be a long, difficult struggle. Even when you get to a point that you can say you have "conquered" it, you will face opportunities to prove it by overcoming again. (and again, and again, and again)

Many sources - religious and spiritual advisers, psychologists, positive thinkers, e.g. - tell us that fear is actually at the bottom of most, if not all, of our negative emotions. If this is true, it's even more important to learn to overcome the fear barrier.

One thing I do to continue "conquering" fear is to use as a meditation passage the Bene Gesserit Litany Against Fear, from Frank Herbert's Dune. It takes very little time, so it can be used to calm the nerves almost any time. For example, if you have difficulty speaking to groups, you could use this meditation immediately before giving a presentation. If you have a fear of flying, you could use it while waiting for take-off.

As I explained, my process for a "full" meditation is to:

Center the breathing
Say (or think) passage through one time, a sentence or phrase per breath.
Repeat each phrase through four breaths.
Repeat entire passage as a whole.
Center and return to the world.

If necessary, you can shorten this process to fit it into a smaller time frame. Here, then, is the Bene Gesserit Litany Against Fear:

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.

In peace,

Lane

Meditation to Slow Down

2010-03-01T08:58:00.003-06:00

This is the meditation passage I use when I feel the need to focus on slowing down. Please feel free to use it if it works for you. For the purpose of this article, I am assuming you already know how to meditate, so I'll dive right in to the meditation itself.

TIME REQUIRED: If you follow the order correctly, you will take a total of forty-eight breaths during this meditation. If we assume 20 seconds for each full breath (inhale, pause, exhale, pause), then this exercise will take sixteen minutes. If you want to fit the meditation into a shorter time span, you can eliminate one of the steps to shorten the meditation.

PROCESS:

1. Begin with seven breaths. (Seven is a sacred number to many.) Think of nothing but the breath. This is the time to center your breathing, and your mind.

2. Slowly repeat (verbally or non-verbally) the five phrases, as you inhale, then again as you exhale.

3. Repeat each phrase through four breaths. (Four is a scared number.) You will actually repeat each phrase eight times, once for each inhale and each exhale.

4. Repeat step 2, saying each phrase as you inhale, and again as you exhale.

5. Repeat the final phrase through seven breaths.

6. Return to the room slowly through four breaths.

THE MEDITATION:

I move at the pace of the sun as it sets.

I move at the pace of the flower as it opens.

I move at the pace of the spider as it spins.

I move at the pace of the world as it turns.

I move at the pace of the Sacred Source from which I came.

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Good Luck. I hope this helps.

In peace,

Lane

Forgiveness

2010-02-28T11:55:00.002-06:00

This post is based on a presentation I gave two weeks ago at the Circle of Gratitude and Love Learning Center.

When we hold onto grievances, no matter how large or small, we are attaching ourselves to negative emotions. Negativity drains the Spirit, leading to physical problems as well as mental and emotional ones. While the words on the death certificates may be different, many people have literally killed themselves by wallowing in negative emotions.

Allowing negative emotions to rule one's self is a slow suicide death by a thousand cuts. Not single cut can be blamed, but each one bleeds us of some of our energy. Each one robs us of some of our Spirit. If the Spirit is a lion, negative emotions are the hyenas that, although not nearly as strong taken one at a time, together can take down the strongest lion in the jungle.

So how does one escape from negative emotions? Through forgiveness. So often forgiveness does more to heal the forgiver than it does to heal the forgiven. Forgiveness is a supreme act of love, not just of the other person, but also of ourselves. By living in love we can heal the pain we cause ourselves by attaching to negative emotions.

Living in Spirit must include forgiving others. You can talk all you want about being centered, being grounded, living in compassion, and all the rest, but if you cannot forgive, you're living a lie. Living in Spirit means to live in connection with all things, especially other people. There is no room for negative emotions in a life filled with Spirit.

Consider that spirituality is concerned with connections; negative emotions separate us from each other. Often it's because the negative emotion comes from our ego. When we feel a negative emotion, it's attached to "I, me, mine."

Another consideration is that much of the time, the negative emotions we feel don't affect the other person at all. Yet that negativity permeates our life. For example, what happens when you get angry because someone else cuts you off in traffic? How does being upset do anything except mess up your own day? The other driver is unaware of your anger, and goes about his day as if nothing has happened, because - to him - nothing has.

What about the boss that ridiculed you in front of others? Do you think it affects his day - in any way at all - for you to sit under a dark cloud of anger and self-righteousness? Do you think he's sitting in his office with his stomach in a knot because you are offended? I've worked for that boss, and I can promise you he's not bothered at all.

In our relationships, the consequences are even more dire. When we allow negative emotions to become ascendant in our relationships, we cut ourselves off from love. We disassociate ourselves from our own loving nature, and we build insurmountable walls between ourselves and those we love. Our own refusal to let go of negative emotions prevents either party in the relationship from having any chance of healing.

In both cases above, the emotions will not go away on their own. Time does not heal all wounds - unless we do the work necessary to that healing. But while we may not be able to change the emotions, we can change our responses.

Positive and negative emotions are constantly at war within us. Consider the Native American story of the two wolves. There are many versions of the story, but the main point is that an elder is instructing and young man. The elder explains that there are two wolves inside him. One is kind, compassionate, giving - the embodiment of spirituality and positive living. The other is mean, self-centered and greedy - the embodiment of negative living. The elder tells of the constant battle between the two, how it goes on every day, over and over. When the young man finally asks which wolf wins the battle, the elder says, "the one I feed."

Another hurdle to overcome when learning to deal with negative emotions is our willingness to blame others for how we deal with our emotions. Placing blame on others is a cop out; it's an easy way to avoid doing the often difficult work of dealing with negative emotions. When we say to ourselves it's someone else's fault, we let ourselves off the hook: If it's their fault, we don't have to do anything!

The only way for us to better deal with negative emotions is to first take responsibility for our emotions, then to deal with them. Sometimes it takes a while before we can change our behavior, but the only way time will heal the wound is if we do our part by letting go of our negative feelings and forgiving the other person. Face the hyenas and deal with them. Don't turn your back on them, expecting them to simply go away. If you do, they'll only continue to rip at your spirit, eventually taking you down.

The best way to deal with these negative emotions is to choose a better response - in this case, forgiving the other party. As the teaching story above shows us, it's up to us which wolf - positive or negative - to feed. But is is a choice, and you have to make a definite choice to be positive. In a sense, this gives the negative emotion an advantage, because it will well up in us uncalled for, and unwelcome.

When that happens, you can - and must - make the choice to be positive instead. You have to say, "no, I'm not going to let my anger (or fear, or hurt) control me. You must then act in concert with that choice, and you have to keep doing it every time that negative thought returns. When this happens, it helps me to remember that the returning thought is simply an indication that I have more work to do. That continued work helps me create a new and better habit in time.

Let's go back to the example of the bad driver. When someone cuts you off, it can startle you. Being startled kicks in your "fight or flight" responses and can quickly turn your fear (you were startled) into anger. This is an automatic reaction, and there's not a lot (at least in the beginning) that you can do about a reaction. What comes next, however, is a response. You've had time to think, and you make a choice as to what you will do next - blare your horn, yell things the driver can't hear and get upset, or stop long enough to take back control of how you feel instead of letting your negative emotions run away with you.

It only takes a moment to change your thinking and therefore your response. You could simply remind yourself of the futility of being angry at someone who will never know. You could stop to think of the many possible reasons for what they did: they may not have realized their lapse; they could be very late and feeling stressed; they could just be a bad driver. In a sense, what you think is not as important as it is to actually stop and think. It's that change of direction that creates the space in which you can choose to respond differently.

In a relationship that has suffered some sort of harm through the actions of another, it can be more difficult to forgive and release the negative emotions, but it can still be done. We have to remind ourselves to not be judgmental. We have to remind ourselves that we aren't perfect, either. We have to remind ourselves of the many reasons we still love, admire and respect the other person, or how important that person is to our lives. When we've suffered significant hurt, we may have to repeat the forgiveness numerous times - often several times a day - before we can heal ourselves, and the relationship. But it can be done.

Another kind of work we can do in some of these interpersonal situations is to look at the issue with a determination to find a solution, a different way of acting, or being together, or dealing with whatever the problem is. In order for you to do that effectively, however, you have to be in a space where you can communicate constructively. Most of that time, that means you have to forgive the other person, bring you back to Square 1 where you started. You have to consciously work on forgiveness.

Only you can do that work, however. Only you can choose to free yourself from the negative emotions and learn to create better responses. No one else can do it for you. Reading a book or attending a seminar isn't going to get the job done - unless it gives you useful tools and you use them! In fact, that's all any information source (even this article) can do: it can give you the necessary tools to get the job done.

The hammer doesn't build the house; the carpenter does. The wrench doesn't fix the car; the mechanic does. If you would build a house of positive living - living a life with Spirit - pick up your hammer and go to work. And let forgiveness be the roof that protects you from the storms of debilitating negative emotions.

In peace,

Lane

Earthquakes in Chile and Argentina - a Time for Compassion

2010-02-27T12:09:00.004-06:00

This morning, like many others, I've been watching/reading the news on the massive earthquakes in Chile and Argentina, and the subsequent ocean surge that will affect the entire Pacific, especially the west coasts of North and South America, and the Pacific island chains.

I hope you will join me in offering prayers for all in both countries in their time of need. This is not a time for spiteful rhetoric, as some have already begin to spew. We are called to aid the suffering with compassion and without judgement. I choose to follow the teachings and not the hypocrites that spew forth hatred in the name of love.

Which do you think Jesus would prefer?

In peace,

Lane

Religion and the Media

2010-01-31T19:58:00.003-06:00

Today, I read a report about CBS news and their religiously based advertising policy. In short, here's the point:

To CBS executives, it's OK to air an anti-abortion ad, but not an ad for a Gay dating service. Their response is, to be nice, pure balderdash.

It's time for the Federal Communications Commission to do its job and put a stop to evangelism by our media corporations. When a media giant can ban an ad about a legitimate company serving a legal segment of our population based on the morals of its corporate executives, we no longer enjoy free airwaves that, according to our laws, belong to the people.

My mom used to tell me you can't have your cake and eat it, too. Yet that's exactly what CBS wants. It wants to be able to deny "issue-based" ads they don't like, even when they aren't really issue-based (since when is dating an "issue"?), yet be allowed to air issue-based ads that promote the executives' approved stances on extremely divisive issues.

CBS has three choices:

1. It can remove the anti-abortion ad.

2. It can air the Gay dating ad.

3. It can face a massive boycott.

If the do not follow through on either 1 or 2 above, I will take part in the boycott, and I will encourage everyone else I can reach to do the same.

Some reading this may say, "well, I'm against abortion" or "I'm against homosexuality." However, that is a personal opinion, based on personal beliefs. I wonder how you would feel if a station refused to air ads based on your views? Would it be OK with you if CBS refused to air heterosexual dating ads, but aired Gay dating ads? Would you be OK with CBS airing pro-choice ads and not yours? I'd be willing to be you would not be. So what's the difference?

Why is one form of censorship OK, but the other is not?

Living a life with Spirit means showing respect for the beliefs, opinions and life ways of others. It means affording respect to all, not just those who agree with you.

To those who say it is not their problem because they are not Gay, I would remind you of the words of Pastor Niemoeller:

Martin Niemoeller was a clergyman of the Lutheran Church in Germany and a pastor during the 1930's and 1940's. In 1937 he was arrested by the secret police and was sent to a concentration camp, sentenced to death for speaking against the state. He was freed by the allied armies before he could be executed, 1 month before the war ended and 12 years after the German people elected the Nazis to power.

After the war Pastor Niemoeller became a vocal and passionate defender of human rights, and he reminded every single person he spoke to as to WHY it is so very important that each and every one of us speak out against prejudice, injustice, and oppression all the time and every time we see or hear it, why we have to "look out for the other guy."

He explained it this way:

. . . In Germany they came first for the Communists, and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a Communist. Then they came for the Jews, and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a Jew. Then they came for the trade unionists, and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a trade unionist. Then they came for the Catholics, and still I didn't speak up because I was a Protestant. Then they came for me, and by that time no one was left to speak up. . .

I, for one, will speak up, even though I am not Gay. I will speak up because to infringe on the rights of one is to infringe on the rights of all.

Religiously based censorship is wrong, no matter the belief being censored. If you agree, please join me in telling CBS your thoughts.

In peace,

Lane

Danville Foodstock Dinner Today

2009-12-20T08:09:00.003-06:00

The Danville Foodstock Sunday Dinner for December is today. Doors open at 11:00, dinner begins at 11:30 and goes till the food runs out.

Today's menu is Holiday Ham, scalloped potatoes, green beans, garden salad, and Christmas cookies for dessert.

The dinner is presented at the Tilton Public Use Buidling, behind the Tilton ball park complex.

For a map, directions, and further information, or to make a donation, please visit the Danville Foodstock web site.

Many thanks, as always to County Market (North), Vermilion Valley Produce, and the many other businesses and individuals who help make sure that Danville Foodstock continues to serve food - and hope! - to those in need.

In peace,

Lane

A Christmas Celebration

2009-12-19T07:47:00.003-06:00

Later today, I'll be performing at a Christmas party in our area. Let me tell you a bit about it.

Every year, Robin - of Robin's Bar & Grill - puts on a Christmas party for the area's children. Each year she entertains dozens of children from low-income families, along with their parents. She pays for everything, the food, the gifts, the decorations... everything! This is one way that Robin gives back to her community and serves others.

Last year was the first time I was involved. I learned of the event from Glenda, who has participated for several years. I immediately offered to perform, and it was one of my first solo performances. I quickly learned several Christmas carols, and added a couple of my own tunes. I had a blast and so did the kids, so the event immediately became a part of my permanent calendar.

So, later today, if you hear one old man and a bunch of kids singing at the top of their lungs, with big smiles on their faces, that's us!

By the way, I just noticed that it's started to snow here. Cool deal! Snowball fights in the parking lot!

In peace,

Lane

Welcoming Teach Me Bass Guitar

2009-12-15T14:17:00.006-06:00

Today I'd like to introduce you to Teach Me Bass Guitar (TMBG), a phenomenal new DVD-based instructional course created by one of my best friends, Roy Vogt. At the end of September, I joined The Learning Dock, LLC, (TLD) publishers of TMBG, as VP, Sales & Outreach. My main reason for considering the opportunity was to help Roy promote the crowning achievement of his thirty year career as an internationally-acclaimed musician and educator. I now have many more reasons to be with the company.

Before I go through the whole story, let me point out that Teach Me Bass Guitar is the most comprehensive, effective and entertaining course of bass guitar instruction available anywhere outside of a major school of music. Roy is a master educator with over thirty years experience teaching at the university level - at Nashville's prestigious Belmont University, no less. TMBG is great for everyone from brand-new beginners just picking up the bass guitar, to serious intermediate players who want to hone their skills and correct bad habits. It's also an excellent primer of various musical styles for those wanting to broaden their horizons. If you want to learn to play bass guitar, there simply is no better way to learn!

Now... grab your cup of coffee and let me tell you why I'm writing about Roy and TMBG here.

Roy and I go back to the mid 80s, when I met him while he was touring with Dickey Betts (Allman Brothers) and his band Great Southern. We hit it off right away and stayed in touch when and as we got the chance. This was before the Internet, email, texting and such. But once the Net was king, Roy and I were able to stay in much closer touch. Many years later, in the summer of 2005, Roy began to write bass guitar lessons and music business articles for Eden Electronics, a bass amp company Roy and I have both endorsed for more than a decade. At the time, I was the company's Special Projects Coordinator; one of my duties was as managing editor for the company web site. (For much of that time, I was also Roy's Artist Relations contact for the company, yet another reason to work together.)

Roy and I worked together as writer and editor until earlier this year, when funding cuts curtailed our project (among many others). I drove down to Nashville often, and always did my best to see Roy, several times offering music business clinics to his students at Belmont University, and inviting Roy to participate in my in-store events for Eden dealers. So when Roy first told me about Teach Me Bass Guitar, I immediately volunteered to help him promote it in any way I could.

What neither of us realized was that, by June, I would have left the company and would be searching for new ventures to fill the void. I believe I've mentioned here before that the parent company for which I worked was brutally damaged by the downward spiraling economy, as was much of the music manufacturing industry in general. I survived many cutbacks and lay-offs throughout the last part of 2008. But in January, 2009, I knew things were "going south" when the company cut me from the team that would be at the winter NAMM show. When a company will not pay the cost to take their chief promoter of an entire product line to a trade show, you know things are really bad.

Over the first half of this year, I watched my pay dwindle and my benefits disappear. I was converted to subcontractor status and basically supervised the break-up of my position with various duties taken by a number of others. I'm sure you can understand that, by the time it all came to a grinding painful halt in June, I was beaten up pretty badly. Even though I knew it was time to go - what with my close friend and "partner in tone" David Nordschow having already left the company at the end of summer, 2008 (I originally slowed down my consulting practice to assist David) - it was a difficult transition for many reasons, not the least of which is the fact that it put a serious financial strain on my new marriage.

Now, reading this blog, you wouldn't know much about that, as I wrote very little about it. And when I did, I talked about how fortunate I was to have an understanding wife and the faith that there was something better in store for me. I knew that if I worked hard to do my part, I would receive divine assistance. I knew that God had a plan, even if I didn't know what it was. And that's where Teach Me Bass Guitar comes in.

In mid-July, I met Barbara and David Crossman, owners of TLD, at the summer NAMM show - the second largest music industry trade show (the first being the winter NAMM show). I urged her to call me to discuss possibilities and Roy recommended me highly. One thing led to another, and we finally got to sit down for a few days of meetings in late September, with the result being that I came home with a truck-load of work to do, and an even greater load of hope and gratitude. Not only was I going to help Roy with his dream, I was going to help an entire family with theirs as well - all while helping to make my own dreams a reality.

David and Barbara are both very spiritual people. Devout in their faith, and both working hard to follow the teachings to the best of their ability. The same is true of their children and their families. I'll write more about this in future posts. For now, suffice to say that they all walk the walk, and there's not a whole lot of book-thumpin' going on. (Sure, we talk about spirituality, but that's not thumpin'; that's sharing.)

So here I am - doing something I love to do while helping one of my closest friends and a wonderful family - promoting the most amazing bass instructional course I've ever seen. I really wish I'd had something like this when I started playing bass 40 years ago!

Now, here's the really cool part - like many music education products, a large portion of sales is through affiliate marketing. For those that don't know, this is basically a system by which others promote your products and get a portion of each sale they refer. Because David and Barbara are very focused on service to others, they have set up a special program for non-profits and other charitable organizations. That way, a person can purchase the product and a good portion of their price will go to the organization through which they order.

You can now order Teach Me Bass Guitar through the Life with Spirit Foundation, with up to 30% of your purchase price going to support our work. I think that's just incredible! If you know someone - of any age! - who wants to learn to play bass guitar, or improve their skills, introduce them to Roy's course and Life with Spirit at the same time.

Isn't it interesting what a difference a few short months can make in person's life? No matter how bad things are, they can get better in a hurry if you do two things:

Do Your Part

Have Faith

Do what needs doing and get the job done. Sooner begun, sooner done, as my father used to say. It won't help to sit and worry or complain. It won't even help to pray if you aren't willing to take responsibility for your share of the burden. No matter your situation, get up every day and deal with it. Remember, God helps those who help themselves. You have to show you're willing to invest some effort to get through the bad times... that you'll do whatever is required of you to keep going. Or, to put it bluntly - Do Your Part.

Rome wasn't built in a day (I'm full of sayings and cliches today!), and it will take time to get through any difficult situation. Even when times seem their darkest, you have to have strong faith that the Light will prevail, as it always does. You have to know that, as a Child of Spirit, you are cared for and loved always... that you will be provided for, as Jesus often promised. "See the birds in the air..."

I did my part. And so did Glenda. But more importantly, I had faith. I trusted that I was on the right road, and was being guided in my journey. And my trust has been repaid many times over with a wonderful gift - of a new opportunity, new friends, and a new way to serve my fellow bassists. All in time for Christmas!

I'm a happy boy!! (smile)

In peace,

Lane

A Wonderful Weekend

2009-12-14T17:44:00.001-06:00

This weekend the Danville Foodstock kitchen crew assisted with the Village of Tilton's Senior Holiday Dinner. Eleven turkeys and all the trimmings, with several pies and puddings for dessert. I ended up doing a short set of Christmas Carols and a few of my own songs, near the end of the dinner. Of course, Monty Schroeder, Danville Foodstock's Head Chef and Ktichen Boss supervised all of the cooking and the serving line. Glenda assisted throughout, never sitting down until we finally got home in the late afternoon.

We were all pleased to take part, and look forward to taking part again next year. This is our way of thanking the village of Tilton for their kind support of the Danville Foodstock Sunday Dinner series. They allows us free use of their building, and provide funding assistance for every dinner. Recently they repaved the long, winding 2-lane road that winds back to the facility, so that it would be less treacherous for dinner guests this winter. They have also allowed us to reserve the third Sunday of every month, beginning this coming Sunday. That will make it easier for folks to remember it and make it a permanent part of their schedule.

You can learn more about Danville Foodstock and how you can help by visiting the web site. While there, please sign up to receive our new monthly newsletter, beginning in January, 2010. You can also get instant updates through the new Twitter account - twitter.com/foodandhope.

In peace,

Lane

Thought for Today - 12.10.09

2009-12-10T09:57:00.001-06:00

If prayer and passage meditation are talking to God, silent meditation is listening to God for the answers. After prayer or passage meditation, I always sit, at least for a few minutes, in silent meditation in case God has something to say to me.

In peace,

Lane

A New Opportunity to Serve

2009-11-04T08:03:00.002-06:00

Yesterday, I wrote about a small congregation at risk of losing their church. To add a little to the story, I'm honored that they have asked me to serve as their minister - at least temporarily. Because their lawyer has recommended they not have services in the building until the lawsuit is settled, we will be holding services in the home of one of the members of the church. In respect of her privacy, I am not listing the address. However, if you would like to attend, please feel free to email me here.

Religion and Money

2009-11-03T08:47:00.002-06:00

Like my indigenous forebears, I do not set fees for the spiritual work I do. Instead, I do the work when asked in a good way, leaving it to the person to make a free will offering after the work is completed.

Many times I have been asked why I don't set fees in advance. Today, I'd like to offer an example to illustrate my reason for not doing so.

Just a few minutes south of me is a small congregation that has been together for decades. Recently the parent organization - I hesitate to call it a church - decided they could make a pile of money by selling off the church. They had already closed others in the area, at least once barging into the sanctuary in the middle of a Sunday service, forcing everyone out of the building before the service was completed. On one building, they supposedly made almost a million dollars on the sale of the land.

These hypocrites have shown their stripes. They don't care about anyone's soul as much as they do money. If they did, they'd never stoop so low.

The good news here is that this particular congregation is not going away quietly. It seems that the parent organization had deeded the church and the land to the actual congregation and so do not have a legal claim to the property anymore. The bad news is that the lawyers are now involved, so it will be some time before the congregation can pray in their own house of worship.

All because of money. And that is the problem. When spiritual ministry becomes a service for profit, the spirituality itself becomes lost. When the value of a building is greater in one's eyes (or several persons'!) than the value of the spiritual well being of the congregation, that person is no longer religious, much less spiritual. Unless, of course, they worship money.

I much prefer the way I do things. I do the work and leave it the person or people for whom that work is done to offer what they can... what they feel is fair. Often, I won't even open the envelope for many days. And the money always goes to support more work.

So, if you ever ask me for spiritual support, know that money is not, and never will be, a part of my motivation. I do what I do because I feel called to the task. I do it because it's one way I can live a life with Spirit. May it always be so!

In peace,

Lane

Bringing Peace to the World

2009-10-24T12:53:00.000-05:00

A few days ago, an e-letter arrived in my In box. It's one of numerous items I receive that relate in some way to spirituality, right livelihood, positive attitude, and what-have-you. I find them to be an interesting source of ideas to ponder. I don't always agree with the ideas offered, but even then they can be a good stimulant for my own thoughts.

This was such a time. What has made it so interesting is that this one paragraph catapulted me into a series of contemplations on how to bring true peace to the world. Heady stuff, to be sure, yet it seems to me that, if we are really living a life with Spirit, world peace should be one of our highest priority goals. For me, the short statement, or creed, I wrote more than a decade ago, encapsulates the essence of living a life with Spirit:

one world ~ one people
one Spirit ~ one message:
Live in Harmony

When we recognize the truth that we are all God's children, that each of us carries within the essence of the Sacred Source of all things, and then live our lives with that truth as our very foundation, we cannot help but strive to live in harmony with the rest of creation - most importantly, with our fellow human beings.

Now, after all that lead-up, let's go back to the message that got me started.

This issue's prayer called on God to "bring peace" to nations suffering from war. Why? If it were God's responsibility to end the war in Afghanistan, don't you think He'd have done something before now? Thing is, it's not His responsibility; it belongs to the people who started the war, and who perpetuate it. And, unfortunately, that means those of us in the US who have allowed this war to continue. We'll talk about that later, but there's a larger context in which we need to frame the discussion, and I'll get there in a minute. But there's another piece of the puzzle to display first.

The morning after this particular email, I watched a report about a 15 year old boy who was doused with rubbing alcohol and lit on fire by five other young teens. At one point the mother said that something had to be done to curb the violence in our children. Without thinking, I murmured, "start with the government." Glenda asked what the government could do to stop the violence.

My point was (and is) that we live under a government that, for decades, has only seen one option when we didn't get our way: violence. Don't like a legitimately elected government? Overthrow it. Want to control another country's resources? Invade it on a flimsy excuse. On and on it goes. Lies and fear are spread to force us into line. Cries of lack of patriotism if we disagree with the warmongers. And, now, we're told that constant war is the only way to have peace.

Wait a minute? Didn't Orwell warn us of this?

Like it or not, the US has been the largest geopolitical bully for more than fifty years - and all for the sake of the wealthiest among us, so they could capture even more wealth. Eisenhower warned us, and we ignored him. Now, we're reaping the sad harvest of that apathy. Our nation has gotten in bed with the worst of despots, dictators and iron-handed monarchs when it suited corporate profits. We have undermined legitimate governments that were supported by the people when they wouldn't yield control of their resources to us, setting up corrupt, repressive regimes in their place, and couldn't have cared less how it adversely affected the citizens.

The amount of money, people, resources, time and other measures of energy and focus spent on perpetuating global violence is staggering. How any person who claims religion as the cornerstone of their life can rationalize and excuse it is unfathomable. How does this relate to our children? Simple - they are doing what they're taught to do.

Our children are being taught that violence is the only answer. They see our own government do it. They see adults commit violence to get their way. They watch their parents get into screaming matches and fights at their soccer games. Does anyone think that they're learning to responsibly deal with conflict and disagreement?

At the same time, we live in a country that has lost much of its hope. Our children look at the world and see less opportunity to better their lives. They graduate college only to find that there is no work for them. They see little chance of fulfillment and happiness in the pursuit of career. It makes them frustrated and very angry. Faced with these feelings, they vent them as they have been taught - in violence.

If we really want to change things, we have to start with ourselves. That means living our lives centered on peaceful coexistence with others. It doesn't mean rolling over and letting others take advantage of us. We can still take a stand for our rights, and the rights of others, but it must be done from a center of peace. And that is very different center than violence.

Some talk about courage in terms of committing violence on another. Yet how much courage does it take to attack someone smaller, younger (or older!), weaker and/or less violent? How much courage does it take to attack an individual in groups? How much courage does it take to swing a club, throw a brick, fire a gun? (By the way, how often have you seen someone start a fight because they were in the right?)

It takes a very special kind of courage to take a stand in peace. Gandhi resisted peacefully and changed the world. John Woolman spent much of his life, quietly persuading his fellow Quakers to end their participation in slavery. Thanks to his efforts, no Quaker owned slaves - one hundred years before our Civil War.

Our spirituality calls us to be peacemakers. Matthew 5:9 (ISV) says:

How blessed are those who make peace, because it is they who will be called God's children.

In truth, creating a truly peaceful world begins within each of us who claim a life with Spirit. It must begin within before we can encourage it in others. We must rededicate ourselves daily to the promise of living in harmony - in peace - with others.

This is how it begins. In future posts, I'll offer thoughts on how it continues. But before we can look at others, we must look to ourselves. This, too, is an important part of living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Gearing Up for Fall

2009-10-13T07:52:00.002-05:00

As I'm sure you've already noticed, I have not been posting much over the last several months. The reason for that is that I've been busy dealing with the state of the economy. From early January through the beginning of July, I fought a rear-guard action as I watched my income from my principal employment shrink to the point of disappearing. Since then I've been working hard to replace that income.

Obviously, I'm not the only one dealing with economic issues, and I don't mean to cry "poor me." But I do admit that dealing with all of this has taken considerable time and caused a fair amount of stress. Through it all, however, I had two things that helped a lot.

First, I have a wife who believes in me. Second, I have my faith... faith that if I do my part, Spirit will do its part, too. Yes, there were times that I worried. And there were times that I thought I'd have to find another career path. But every morning and every evening I'd say a prayer of thanks, knowing that it could have been far worse.

I'm happy to report that things are looking much better. I've restarted my consulting career, which was put on hold some five years ago, and the work is building. Moving forward, I've promised myself I would post here at least once a week.

So... now you know where I've been and why. If my story is similar to yours, remember that faith -- both in ourselves and in the Divine -- can help keep you stable as you work through the difficult times. And keeping the faith in times of trouble is an important part of living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

An Example of Life with Spirit

2009-09-18T10:35:00.002-05:00

I read an article in the newspaper today that I would like to share with you. In Reston, VA, not far from where I grew up, the Northern Virginia Hebrew Congregation has opened its doors to the All Dulles Area Muslim Society for the Muslim Holy month of Ramadan.

Imam Mohamed Magid, leader of the Muslim congregation called the arrangement "a story that shatters stereotypes." Rabbi Robert Nasonchuk, leader of the synagogue, pointed out that "you only get to know someone when you invite them into your home."

In fact, this is not the first time the two congregations have shared space. Nor is it the first time that each group has worked with other religions. However, it is remarkable in that it is the first time that daily prayers have been offered, and for the fact that it shows such great respect for Ramadan.

Think of Jewish/Muslim relations and all that comes to mind is the strife and conflict between them. On both sides, we hear from the extremes, but seldom hear from the middle. We often forget that there are thousands upon thousands of clergy in both faiths that preach tolerance and respect, who promote the recognition of common ground.

Side Note: One might begin their own study of this common ground with the similarities between Kosher and Halal.

We are all taught to be tolerant of others, and respectful of their choice of faith. Yet, as a global society, we have a very hard time putting it into practice. That's why this story is so important to me. It reminds me that it is indeed possible to follow the teachings, even in this tumultuous time.

Let us all take this example of compassionate spirituality to heart. It inspires me to know that these two congregations are truly living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

PS - next post, I'll offer an update of everything that's happened since my last post over two months ago. - LB

Catching Up - Again

2009-07-10T09:28:00.002-05:00

The past few weeks have been extremely busy, and it's been a lot of fun. On Father's Day, I presented services at the Circle of Gratitude and Love Learning Center. The message of the day was about fathers, of course. And, as usual, I talked about my father and the lessons I learned from him.

Then, on July 3, Danville Foodstock worked with several local businesses to mount a food drive in support of the Danville Area Food Pantry. We raised almost $500 dollars in food and donations.

Still in Foodstock mode, I recently secured sponsorship from Morningwood Studios to produce (for FREE!) a recording of Another Man's Blues, which will be our new "theme song". Studio owner Tom Foutch is my new favorite producer, and has really made me feel at home. Another wonderful part of this is that Deeper Blues' original drummer Aaron Bouslog did the drum track for the song.

We hope to finish the production quickly, as the Foodstock Fall Festival will take place Saturday, September 12. We want to use the song to help promote the event.

On the business side of things, this past Tuesday I met with Larry Spears, of the Spears Center for Servant-Leadership. Some readers may already know that promoting (and following) servant-leadership is a major part of my mission, both with the Life with Spirit Foundation and Foodstock Charities. It is also the cornerstone of my management consulting.

Larry is the world's foremost authority on servant-leadership, and I am extremely grateful for his friendship and guidance. I am very much looking forward to working more closely with him. Here's what came out of the meeting:

1. The next volume of essays in Larry's series of books on servant-leadership has been accepted for publication by Paulist Press. I mention this because I will have an essay in the book - Learning Servant-Leadership from Native America - Again. This essay compares native leadership to servant-leadership, and offers ideas on how we can use native teaching methods to teach our children the value of service to society. We expect a mid-2010 release.
2. Larry and I will work together on several writing projects, not the least of which is an expansion of his essay on the ten characteristics of servant-leaders.

My biggest problem (if you can call it that) is finding time to get everything done. There have been so many wonderful opportunities lately, that I often find myself working twelve hour days again, even on the weekends. While it may take a lot of my time, I do acknowledge that I am on much better footing than many... mostly because I am still able to earn an income. I am also very grateful for the opportunities that have arisen.

We often feel unsettled in times of change. I have found, however, that if one trusts to God (by whatever name) and has faith that the change is for the better, it really will be OK. I "let go and let God" last year, and I found Glenda, who had been there for months. This time, I "let go and let God" during a time of financial strain. Lo and behold, the opportunities have come pouring in.

Trusting the process, even in times of stress and upheaval, is an important step in living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

A Father's Day Meditation

2009-06-21T19:39:00.004-05:00

In honor of Father's Day, I offer the following meditation. In truth, it's more a list of affirmations, but regardless of what you call it, I hope it serves.

Father's Day Meditation

I am a willing parent.

I will give my child the best I have to offer.

I will allow my child to live their life - not the life I wish I had.

I will allow my child to make mistakes and learn.

I will forgive my child's faults and continue to love.

I will forgive my faults and continue to love.

I will let go of my past so that I can be the best parent possible.

I will remember that I, too, was a child.

I am a willing parent and I continue to love.

In peace,

Lane

The Two Wolves Within

2009-05-31T10:13:00.002-05:00

Last Thursday, I wrote about finding God within ourselves. As I reflected on that premise, I remembered a story I've heard many times over the years. It's about something else that goes on inside of each of us - the fight between "two wolves."

According to most sources, including many of the the indigenous Native American nations, this teaching story is Cherokee, and is used to illustrate to their children the need to always focus on the positive. Here is one version I have heard:

A young boy comes to his grandfather for guidance. He is very angry at his friend for some slight or wrong. The grandfather smiles and says "I have also felt anger at those who have done so much wrong, feeling no regret for their actions. But anger and hatred hurts you, not your enemy. It is the same as cutting yourself and wishing that your enemy would die.

"It is as if there are two wolves inside me. One is good, and he does no harm. He walks in harmony with all around him. He takes no offense when none was intended, and he only fights when he must, and it is right to do so. And , even then, he fights with honor.

"The other wolf, though, is full of anger and hate. Even the smallest perceived slight will enrage him. He is always fighting someone, often for no reason at all. Because of his constant anger, he cannot think or act with honor. But it is helpless anger because it changes nothing.

"It is not easy to live with these two wolves inside me. Each wolf tries its best to dominate my spirit, and so they fight each other all the time."

The boy sat for some time, considering his grandfather's words. Finally, he looks up and asks, "Grandfather, which one wins?"

The elder smiles and touches his grandson's chest, just over the heart, and says, "the one we feed."

Walking a good path - living a life with Spirit - is not always easy. Nor should we expect it to be, especially in today's world. Like it or not, we constantly encounter negativity in one form or another. There are rude people, selfish people, people who live in anger... people who whine and complain, people who justify any means as long as it serves their interests.

At such times, it's all too easy to respond in kind. When someone makes a rude comment we can, without thinking, enter into a game of oneupsmanship in an attempt to hurt the other person more than we have been hurt. Or, we can feed the good wolf, and hold our anger in check. When another causes us harm in our lives, we can wallow in our anger and hatred for that person, or we can rise above base emotions to cultivate our higher spiritual selves.

This does not mean we ignore the wrong committed. Rather, we connect with the God within to respond with compassion and love, because we know that God is within the other person as well, even if they don't know it. We can certainly stand our ground, but by feeding the good wolf, we can do so with honor, and without unnecessary negative thought or action.

The two wolves are always within each of us. And at every moment of choice between right and wrong, they battle for supremacy. Learning to feed the good wolf is an important step in living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Finding the God Within

2009-05-28T07:26:00.003-05:00

On May 17 I offered service at the Circle of Gratitude and Love Learning Center. The subject was Finding the God Within. Today I'd like to offer a few thoughts based on that presentation.

We have been told throughout the ages that the key to being close to the Divine is to look within for the Sacred within ourselves. And yet many continue to look outside themselves for manifestations of God. We read again and again that we are children of the One, but forget it as soon as we turn our eyes to the material world.

I have found that by praying often during the day - not just beginning and ending each day with a prayer, but offering prayers repeatedly - it helps me remain close to the Sacred. Other practices that help me are using a mantra and practicing meditation. All of these help remind me that I am a child of the Sacred, and that my greatest task in this life is to come closer to the source of all life.

Yes, all of the above are useful. However, they are only the beginning. When we manifest our spirit - our True Self - in the material world, we realize our true potential as spiritual beings. That is why many work so hard to serve others. We know from the teachings that we are called to serve our fellow man to the best of our ability. We are told that our greatest rewards are derived from this service.

Forgiveness is one of the most spiritual acts we can perform. Just as the Sacred immediately forgives our acts of transgression, we must learn to forgive others. Therefore, when someone's actions or words hurt or anger me, I do my best to remind myself that I am far from perfect. While that person's actions may be different from mine, they are no different on the basic level. All misguided action separates us from God, and keeps us from accomplishing our mission.

When we respond to another's actions based on the God energy within us, we cannot hold negative thoughts. When we look at the other person and see the God within them, we cannot judge and find them lacking. All we see is a reflection of ourselves, and of God, in that other person, and we recognize that we are all doing our best.

Our challenge is to continuously recognize the God within ourselves and all others - not just fellow humans, but all of creation. The whale manifests God as much as we do. The tree lifting its branches to the sky is a manifestation of God. Even the rocks - called by some "the grandfathers" manifest God in their unique way.

When we recognize the God energy within all things, we come one step closer to reuniting with the creator of all things. When we focus our existence on the Sacred, we remember that our journey is not about being better, but simply actuating our True Self – that part of us that is God, the part of us that is One with all things. And we find the God within.

Finding the God within is an important step in living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Hell is the Absence of God

2009-05-15T07:38:00.002-05:00

A thought came back to me this week as I've been preparing to offer services at the Circle of Gratitude and Love Learning Center this Sunday. I have a good friend (a Christian) with whom I have many deeper conversations regarding faith. Some time ago, we were discussing the concept of heaven and hell. He said, "hell is the absence of God." I couldn't agree more.

The more removed we are from God, the more fear, pain and loneliness we suffer. When we don't welcome the Sacred into our hearts, much less into our lives, we remove ourselves from the flow of divine energy that permeates the universe.

Conversely, the closer we come to fully living a life with Spirit, the closer we come to God, the more joy, peace, fulfillment and love will fill our lives.

It really is that simple. Yet it is also deeply profound. Our spirits yearn to be one with the Sacred. When we are disconnected, we feel it inside, in our heart, even when we cannot recognize it in our mind. As we devote more of our energy to the spiritual essence of our existence, we feel a sense of completeness that we may not have even known was missing.

For those who may be interested, I'll offer a pair of short mantras that can be used in meditation, or at any time during the day when you want to feel closer to the Divine:

I am a child of the Sacred. I serve the greater good.

Depending on your own life way, you may wish to replace "the Sacred" with God, the Father, Mother, or one of the other names of God. In meditation, I use both phrases; during the day I may, depending on the circumstances, use only one of them. I leave it to the reader to decide what is best for them.

Understanding that we create our own hell when we remove ourselves from the company of the Sacred is an important step toward living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Gay Marriage and Religion

2009-05-07T11:12:00.002-05:00

Yesterday, Maine became the fifth state to legalize gay marriage. This continues the trend in New England, where most states have legalized same-sex marriages, with others poised to follow suit. One of the comments made by State Senator Debra Plowman (R-Hampden) gave me pause. She said that the bill passed "at the expense of people of faith."

To me, this is wrong on two levels. First and foremost, who is she to speak for all people of faith? I consider myself a person of deep faith, and yet I enthusiastically welcome efforts to legalize same-sex marriages. I know many gay and lesbian people who are also people of faith. I know of churches who gladly open their doors to gay and lesbian members; some even allow gay clergy.

In fact, if Plowman can claim to speak for anyone, it is for those who would force their religious views on others. To me, that smacks of theocracy, and we all know how dangerous that can be. All we have to do is look around the world to see the negative impact of theocratic government.

SIDE NOTE: I wonder how many Americans, especially "people of faith", know the truth about the Puritans. In school we are taught that the Puritans fled religious persecution. In truth, it was exactly the opposite. They were thrown out of England because they were attempting to force their religious views on the rest of society. They then tried the same thing in Holland and were thrown out again. When they arrived on American soil, the Puritans set up a government based on their religion - one which allowed the public ridicule of offenders (the Scarlet Letter comes to mind), and torture and burning of those accused of witchcraft - which often was merely an understanding of the use of herbs to cure illnesses.

Second, I still do not understand how allowing gay and lesbian marriages harms others. No one is forcing a church that does not believe in gay marriage to sanction them, perform them, or even recognize them within their organization. Conversely, refusing others rights because their own beliefs do not reconcile you their own, they are actually denying rights to others based on a religious philosophy.

Many opponents of gay and lesbian marriage claim that it destroys the sanctity of marriage. How is that? What is it about gay marriage that is so damaging? I think that, if you want to protect the sanctity of marriage, you would be better served by working to end divorce, family violence and other problems. Refusing the right of marriage to others because their lifestyle is different does nothing to protect marriage at all. It only serves to force others into your own mindset.

I am proud of the state of Maine. I am also proud to support gay/lesbian marriage. I believe that offering to others the same respect and compassion as I hope to receive from others, regardless of whether or not their beliefs reconcile perfectly with mine, is an important step towards living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Simplify

2009-04-13T17:33:00.002-05:00

Here's a one-word answer to the question: How can I better (or, more fully) live a life of spirit?

Simplify.

Own less by getting rid of things you don't really need. For instance, one closet management article I read a few years back said that, barring seasonal clothing, if you haven't worn it in three to six months, throw it out or donate it. Others suggest adopting more of a Feng Shui mindset, removing as much as possible from every room in the house.

Here's the thing: consumerism, especially at the current level, is contrary to the teachings we all receive from our various religions. Worshiping at the altar of How Much I Have is not spiritual.

The fact that many of us have far more than we need is testament that we have fallen for the lie that money is the key to happiness. It isn't, and deep down, we know it.

I'm in the process of further simplification. I'll be back in a day or two with more on that. For now, just consider what you can do to simplify your life... in the hopes that it helps you live a better life with Spirit!

In peace,

Lane

Live Like You're Dying

2009-04-06T15:42:00.002-05:00

What if you died tomorrow? What if today is the last day of your life? How would that change things for you?

These questions have hung in my mind for several weeks. I read The Last Lecture, by Randy Pausch. When he discovered he had terminal cancer, Randy's life changed dramatically. Yet in other ways, he simply continued as he always had - a giving, caring individual who actively sought ways to contribute to society and live a good life. He just looked for more opportunities to live the best life he could.

Reading Randy's thoughts on dying, and living, reminded me of a lesson from years ago. In his international best-seller, Way of the Peaceful Warrior, Dan Millman relates an extremely important thought: There are no ordinary moments.

Every minute of every day is a gift. Every minute wasted, or spent on something negative, is a moment you cannot retrieve. Both Pausch and Millman are telling us to make the most out of every minute of every day. They're telling us that, in order to get more out of life, we have to give all way have, all the time.

Whether you are at work, at play or at rest, immersing yourself in the activity will produce greater results. When interacting with others, be it your family, friends, coworkers, or strangers, giving your best enhances the experience. Even if all you are doing is having an ice cream cone, focusing on that sweet, cold refreshment will add to your enjoyment.

As I wrote of the ice cream cone above, an old memory popped to mind. I don't remember the comedian as it was many years ago, but I remember the last part of his skit. He talked about eating cookies, and how we often don't really enjoy them as much as we could. He talked about how much more delicious the last cookie in the package tastes. Then he went into a whole spiel about not realizing he was eating the last cookie, how he missed the entire experience because of his lack of awareness. He then ended by saying that, from then on, he ate every cookie as if it was his last, and urged the audience to do the same.

If it works for cookies, why not everything else? Enjoy the movie as if it were the last one you'll ever see. Enjoy making dinner with your family because it's the last food you'll ever have. Mow the lawn as if it were a testament to your dedication to your family. Enjoy every sunrise and every sunset, and everything between the two.

Everything we do is enhanced by careful attention, and by infusing the activity with love and compassion. Everyone we meet is better served when we bring our full attention to bear, and the best of ourselves into the interaction. Fill your days with productive work, compassionate service and joyful play and companionship, and you will enrich your life beyond measure.

Living every day as if you're dying is an excellent way to life a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Foodstock News

2009-04-01T14:28:00.003-05:00

It's been a busy few weeks since I last posted. I apologize for the lapse, but I do have good news out of all that work. Danville Foodstock, a chapter of Foodstock Charities, has confirmed dates for two new events, and a strong commitment to produce a Foodstock benefit concert in San Jose, CA. Here are the details:

Working with The Danville High School Library Club, we're holding the first Foodstock DHS Inter-class Food Drive. The winning class (Freshmen through Seniors) will win an after-school party with refreshments and entertainment. Each student will also receive a certificate for participating and/or winning, as the case may be. The competition will run Monday, April 27, through Friday, May 1. All food and monetary donations will benefit the Danville Area Food Pantry. DAFP staff will audit all donations to ensure accuracy and fairness. Kurt Willer, Librarian for DHS and the sponsoring teacher for the Library Club, is our liason, and is handling everything with his club members. He was very excited to work with us, as the club was already searching for just such a project.

The second event will take place Saturday, June 6, as part of Spring Fest, an annual five-day carnival and festival produced by the Danville Jaycees. This year, Saturday will be designated Foodstock Day. We'll be collecting food and donations for the Danville Area Food Pantry, and celebrating with live music throughout the afternoon and evening. I'll be there, along with a lot of friends in the local music community as we combine two great causes, creating a stronger bond between the two organizations and helping us do more in the community.

The third piece of news is that my good friend Polo Jones enthusiastically volunteered to produce a Foodstock benefit concert in San Jose, CA. For two decades, Polo has been the bassist and musical director for a true international superstar, Zucchero. Performing to millions of fans world-wide on every tour, and selling millions of records, Zucchero (and Polo with him) has recorded with everyone from Luciano Pavorati to Eric Clapton.

For 2009, Polo is focusing on his new project while Zucchero takes a break from years of back-to-back touring and recording before beginning his next CD. In the meantime, Polo is busy recording and preparing to tour with Lighthouse for the Blind, a positive message heavy band featuring outsanding songwriting, filled with infectious grooves, tight harmonies and world-class musicianship.

About a week ago, Polo saw a report by our local ABC affiliate on the Foodstock Dinner Series. He went straight from that clip to our web site, which is where he learned about our benefit concerts. Like Mr. Willer's Library Club, Polo was consciously searching for something to do, something to help others. He emailed me right away, and by the time we spoke on the phone two days later, he'd already confirmed a venue and was talking to top local bands.

Wow! If this were hockey, we'd call that a Hat Trick! We're all very excited about all the opportunities. And, certainly, the Danville Area Food Pantry deeply appreciates the help!

I will take a few words to mention that there are expenses we are seeking to cover, above and beyond the concerts (which are 100% flow-through events, in which no one makes a dime) and the free dinner series, which is funded by individual donations and County Market Stores. In the near future, we will be posting a Wish List of items necessary to our work. It is our hope that supporters who can spare a few extra dollars will contribute to the general fund. In addition, you never know who might have a used item on our list.

Our sincere thanks to all who support Foodstock Charities, both here in Danville, and around the country. With your help, we're serving food - and hope - to those in need. And that's a very fulfilling element of living a life with Spirit!

In peace,

Lane

In Reply to a Response

2009-03-17T08:43:00.003-05:00

On Friday, February 20, I put up a post about a letter I wrote to the editors of the News-Gazette in Champaign, IL. Scroll down a bit to find that letter. On March 2, the paper printed a response to that letter, in which the author, a Christian minister, accused me of twisting my interpretation to match my own misguided views. Basically, he said I didn't know my head from the hat I wear.

Of course I had to reply. My original reply as sent to the paper was far too long to fit within their guidelines, so working with the editors, I trimmed it down to this:

One law protects many religious views

Rev 's reply to my Feb. 20 letter demonstrates the truth of my statement: there are disagreements among Christian denominations concerning biblical interpretations. Sometimes they are small, sometimes quite large. In fact, many churches welcome homosexuals into their congregations, even into their clergy. I think it's wonderful we live in a country that makes room for us all.

Please forgive me if my earlier letter made it appear as if I wished to change the personal beliefs of others; that is not the case. Certainly if a denomination chooses to not bless homosexual union within its own organization, that is their right, and I support it even though I disagree.

But to deny homosexuals the right to union based on religious beliefs is contrary to our constitution.

Our country was founded in part on the concept of freedom to choose one's religion without coercion or force. To force upon our society a single mindset based on religion is to create a theocracy. One need only look at today's world to see how dangerous a theocracy can be.

There are indeed many different views on the Bible, and varying translations. Who would deny that King James cause the Bible to be edited?

Or that there are dozens of Protestant versions of the Bible? That the Catholic Bible is different from the King James and subsequent versions?

Personally, I am thankful our country allows us all to choose for ourselves. I believe that all should be treated equally under the law, including homosexuals. I also believe Jesus would approve.

In peace,

Lane

Yesterday's Service

2009-03-16T08:02:00.002-05:00

Yesterday I gave the service at the Circle of Gratitude and Love Learning Center. (I offer the service there once each month.) Yesterday's presentation was titled Do the Work. I'm not going to repeat it all, but I did want to offer the main point:

We know that, in our daily lives, we have to put in the work if we want to receive the reward. However, we often forget that there's work to do in our spiritual lives, as well.

Spirituality is not just about reading, meditating, spiritual retreats, etc. It's about taking what we've learned and putting it into practice in our daily lives. It's about applying the knowledge we've received. And that, in a nutshell is the difference between knowledge and wisdom.

In Way of the Peaceful Warrior, Dan Millman explains it in a very practical way. Dan is visiting his mentor Socrates, at the gas station where Socrates runs the midnight shift. They're servicing a customer (back in the day when full service meant something). Socrates is cleaning his side of the windshield while Dan fiddles with his squeegee. Dan asks about the difference between knowledge and wisdom. Socrates answers, "you know how to clean a windshield. Wisdom is doing it."

It's just that simple. Wisdom is the application of knowledge. So the question we must each ask ourselves is this: Am I applying the teachings I've learned? Am I doing the spiritual work necessary to advance along the path before me?

I think that most of us - if we are honest - know that there is still more work to be done. I know I've got more to do, and every day I strive to be a better version of myself. Every morning I remind myself of this. Every evening, too. I've found that it helps me to stay focused on what really matters. It reminds me that I have to work hard every day to remain true to my spiritual beliefs.

Yes, knowledge is important. But translating that knowledge into wisdom -- doing the work -- is what it takes to truly live a life with Spirit. So... off to work I go!

In peace,

Lane

Interesting Meeting Last Night

2009-03-12T12:21:00.002-05:00

Last night, I presented to the local Board of Education an overview of four projects we hope to mount with their assistance. Here's a quick run-down of what I proposed:

1. A Foodstock food drive for the local high school. We envision a contest in which the winning class (Freshmen, Sophomores, etc.) will receive a free party.

2. An arts and poetry competition for all school ages, grade school through high school. The contest will be judged on the day of this year's Foodstock concert.

3. A series of music appreciation and music education seminars for all levels.

4. A benefit concert in support of local music education.

This time around, I presented during the public comments portion of the meeting. This time around was really just a "warning shot", if you will. Next month, I'll be on the agenda and will offer more detail.

We're all very excited about the projects. We believe that by engaging our youth early, we have the best chance of helping them understand the need for volunteerism and the positive impact it will have on both the community and themselves. These projects will help us spread a message of community involvement and servant-leadership.

As things progress, I'll offer more info here. Until then, remember, serving one's community is a core principal of living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Spears Center Feature

2009-03-04T16:32:00.002-06:00

I'm very pleased and honored to report that I've been featured in the Spears Center for Servant-Leadership newsletter for March, 2009. Larry Spears and I have been long-distance friends, ever since we met in 2001, during my tenure with Men's Wearhouse.

Larry is the authority on humanistic management principles in the world. No other person does as much to promote the ideals by which businesses should guide themselves. I am proud to support the Spears Center for Servant-Leadership, and will support Larry for as long as I am in business. I highly recommend the Spears Center to anyone wishing to learn more.

When I began to refocus my energy on my consulting career, I naturally called Larry to discuss the opportunity, and to hear any advice he might offer. We have continued these discussions off and on over the past few months, and I recently sent him a copy of the Deeper Blues CD, Dig the Hole.

What caught Larry's interest most was the way I am using servant-leadership in my music career and with my charity endeavors (with the Life with Spirit Foundation), bringing the servant-leader message to new audiences. The time was right, Larry decided, to feature me in his newsletter. And, to be honest, I'm speechless... and very grateful.

The first half of the feature is an overview of my work; the second half is the opening to my essay Learning Servant-Leadership from Native America - Again. This is the essay that will be included in Larry's upcoming book The Spirit of Servant Leadership, due this year. Also included is a link to the entire essay.

The guidance and encouragement Larry has offered over the years has, and continues to be, deeply appreciated. While he may not know it, his advice has been crucial to my growth, not only as a servant-ldear, but also as a person. I highly recommend Larry and the Spears Center to anyone wishing to learn more about the servant-leadership community. And, again, I'm honored to be featured in his newsletter.

For those interested, here are links to the feature, and to the essay.

Read the newsletter here.

Read the full essay here.

Read more about my relationship with Larry Spears here.

Visit the Spears Center by clicking here.

To me, servant-leadership is all about bringing your spirituality to your working life. And I think that's an excellent way to live a life with spirit!

In peace,

Lane

A Smooth Transition

2009-02-25T17:27:00.003-06:00

Over the past few weeks, I've been working on a realignment of my life that's long overdue. I'm happy to write that it's all gone very well, and has a happy "ending" for everyone involved. To explain, let me back up a bit for those who may not know all that much about me.

Since leaving the Navy in 1982, I've pursued a music career. It wasn't long before I added a budding consulting business, working with other musicians and entertainers. I've pursued both ever since, and will continue to do so for as long as I'm able. In the early 90s, I met David (Eden) Nordschow, founder of Eden Electronics, and one of the most important bass amp designers in the world. Thus began our friendship, as well as my endorsement of his company in the music industry. Over the years, I assisted with special projects from time to time, and helped promote the company whenever I could.

About four and a half years ago, not long after relocating to Illinois, he offered, and I accepted a full-time position with Eden. By then, David had sold the company to US Music Corp. (after the retail collapse subsequent to 9-11), and was running Eden as a division of the parent company. I came aboard to assist with relationships and communication -- dealers, consumers, other endorsing artists, even some media work. I write training and product manuals, offer in-store training and consumer clinics and a dozen other things. However, David and I both knew that, for both of us, it was simply a transition period. He knew he'd eventually leave to do something new and exciting, and I knew I'd soon follow.

David left at the end of last summer, while I remained to help with the transition to a "post-David" Eden. And in this little corner of the music instrument industry, it's a transition that has to be handled carefully due to David's stature. Now, about a half year later, I've made the first step in my own transition and am looking forward to new things. Basically, I'm now working as a contractor, which frees up a lot of my time, yet keeps me involved in the most important activities. Everybody wins.

One area that will feel a positive impact is my work with the Life with Spirit Foundation. I'll have more time and energy to focus on the Foodstock projects, and on expanding my speaking schedule (and area). There are already a few irons in the fire, but I won't say anything more until there's more definite news to report.

To tie this news in a bit tighter to the purpose of this blog, I'll briefly note that there are two things that have helped immesnely during this time. First is the unqualified support I receive every day from Glenda, for whom I am eternally grateful. The other is faith and trust... knowing that everything was unfoldingas it should be. It has not been easy for me to lay aside my fears and not worry about tomorrow. I've struggled with that for many years. Even lately, when I know that my life is unfolding just as it should, there are times that the momentary struggles cause a lot of stress.

Actually, I cause the stress by succumbing to the fear. It took a while to figure out that fear is an illusion. And even longer to stop reacting in my old set ways. Lately, however, even when I had far more questions than answers concerning this transition, I was able to ignore fear's incessant nibble at the back of my mind and stay focused. And sure enough, by the end of the final conference call this morning, it all had unfolded exactly as it should.

I know this is an extremely difficult and turbulent time for many people. I also know that letting your fear overcome you will not help. What will help is to stay on track, and have faith that we will all get through this. More thoughts about the economy and spiritulaity in another post, another day. Right now, it's time for us to go babysit the grandchildren, something we both look forward to each week, so I'll close for now.

Remember, though. Fear won't help you live a life with Spirit.

Faith will.

In peace,

Lane

Another View on Bible's Passages

2009-02-20T08:40:00.002-06:00

Last Monday, I read a letter to the editor of the News-Gazette (Champaign/Urbana, IL) in which the writer used the Bible to rationalize his hatred of homosexuals. I was moved to respond, and sent in m own letter. Here is the slightly edited version that the paper printed:

I am writing in response to [name]'s Feb 16 letter, and I would like to offer a different point of view. While [name] shares a specific, narrow interpretation of the Bible's teachings, not all Christians agree. There are multiple interpretations of the passages that many use to condemn homosexuality. Translations through the ages have changed the original texts, often to fit the prejudices of the translators

Thankfully, we do not live in a theocracy controlled by a small sect of adherents to a limited view of one religion. We enjoy the right to choose our way of faith. Most of us are taught by our faith to show respect and compassion for those who choose a different path. To me, it is unfortunate that so many who claim a religion based on love, compassion, respect for others, and service to others, use their faith to attack others.

Instead of sowing hate based on narrow interpretations, why not work to right the many injustices in our world? Why not expend that same amount of energy working to ease the suffering of so many in our society?

Aren't there enough real crises to attend to? Aren't there enough ways in which to demonstrate one's commitment to faith without resorting to sowing hatred for others?

I do not ask that others adopt my beliefs. I do ask that others not ridicule or belittle me - or others - because of differences of faith. I do ask that all members of our society be treated with respect, including homosexuals.

We are all children of the Sacred, doing our best to live good lives. Let us not sow discord and hatred. Instead, let us seek common ground with a true willingness to serve others. After all, isn't that what Jesus taught?

In peace,

Lane

Second Foodstock Dinner a Success!

2009-02-16T08:20:00.002-06:00

Yesterday, Foodstock Charities (a project of the Life with Spirit Foundation) held its second monthly Sunday dinner.I'm very pleased to report that it went very well, and that we served almost twice as many dinners as we did the first time. Including meals delivered to seniors and handicapped that could not attend in person, we served fifty-one meals, up from twenty-seven for the first dinner. So our total stands at seventy-eight meals served.

Now, that might not seem like a lot until you consider the situation. First, most of our funding still comes from our own pocket. Thankfully, this is changing. (More in a moment.) Second, we have been careful to slowly ramp up the program. Again, this is, in many ways, still a private program run by three individuals. We have been careful in our advertising so that we were not overwhelmed by more mouths than we could feed.

The good news is that the community is beginning to take an interest in our work. We received numerous donations yesterday, which will help fund future dinners. In addition, one dedicated long-term Tilton resident has contacted us with the interest of providing significant funding for March's dinner! That's right - Connie Weddle has offered to assist with funding for next month's spaghetti dinner. Thanks to Mrs. Weddle, we will not be limited by the amount of funds that Glenda and I can offer.

Before closing, I'd like to offer our sincere thanks to those who assisted:

Kiss Country, KOOL-FM and WDWS radio stations for conducting interviews in advance of the dinner to help spread the word. We greatly appreciate our media partners that kindly offer their support.

Duane for planting (and then removing) the signs that got folks to the Tilton Lions Club building.

Arlene for the milk run! (smile)

The community of the Circle of Gratitude and Love Learning Center. After their noon service, the entire group came to show support, offer donations, and generally have a wonderful time!

We all ended the day feeling very positive about the Foodstock Sunday Dinner Series. We made new friends and gathered new supporters. We strengthened bonds among various segments of our community. And most important of all, we fed more than fifty people in need.

Next month, we again hope to double the number of meals we serve. The March dinner is scheduled for Sunday, the 22nd. Again, meal time will be from noon till 3 p.m. We will also continue to offer delivery (or carryout) for seniors and handicapped individuals who are unable to attend in person. For further information, please visit Danville Foodstock.

We are all taught to live a life of service to others. In so doing, we are told, we find our greatest fulfillment. I can tell you from personal experience, that knowing you've done something to ease the suffering of others, to reach out with a hand of compassion and friendship is to truly live a life with Spirit!

In peace,

Lane

Stop the Bullet

2009-02-14T09:04:00.002-06:00

I don't watch much television programming. I can't tell you who got voted off the island. I have no idea what the current popular sit-coms are. Years ago I read Gerald Mander's Four Arguments for the Elimination of Television and the follow-up In the Absence of the Sacred in rapid succession. Four Arguments changed my TV-watching habits almost instantly; Sacred changed quite a few other things soon thereafter.

Nowadays, I watch a few programs that I find very interesting and entertaining, along with some mindless comedies, such as Red Green, one of Glenda's favorites. I'll also watch a "learning" show if I happen to come across one by accident and the topic interests me in some way. However, it was the new episode of one of our regular programs that caught my attention last night.

The show is Numbers, which features a pair of brothers and their father. One brother is a senior FBI agent; the other is a super-genius mathematician who consults (along with his genius mathematician friends) to the FBI, using high order, exceedingly complex math to help them solve important cases.

Near the end of last night's episode, Charlie the young genius has a light bulb moment, in which he wonders how he can use his talents to reduce crime. He wants to treat the problem, not the negative result. The epilogue showed him at a blackboard filled with mystic (or at least mysterious) equations. His father enters and asks what he's doing, to which Charlie replies with his concept. He ends by saying, "I feel like I"m putting band aids on bullet holes. I want to stop the bullet."

For Charlie, this may mean using math to alter the environment (the shopping mall, parking garage, e.g.) to make it less opportunistic in a potential criminals eye. And, thinking back to the scene in which he mentions that very concept, I can see that there is merit in the idea. If we can make our streets safer by making them less attractive to would-be criminals, it certainly would enhance the quality of our lives. However, I'd like to offer another way to stop the bullet even earlier:

Create a just society based on the teachings we all receive.

Before leaving you to consider the thought, let me point out that I am not suggesting a society based on religion, much less a true theocracy. I am not advocating changing anyone's beliefs or religious dogma, not even atheists and agnostics. What I am advocating is that we each follow our own teachings to the best of our ability. I believe that, if we all do, our society will improve dramatically.

Let me ask you to consider this for a day or two, as I do the same. There's more I'd like to write, but today Glenda and I have a few last-minute errands in preparation for tomorrow's Foodstock Sunday Dinner. (Visit Danville Foodstock for further information.) So we're off to a few stores for supplies and such. As I go through my day, however, I'll be considering this, and almost certainly talking to Glenda about it as well. I'll continue in a few days.

Until then, please consider that building a society that is truly just for all, one that operates in concert with our deepest spirituality is an excellent way for our entire society to live a life with Spirit!

In peace,

Lane

Forgiveness - It's All About You

2009-02-05T08:19:00.000-06:00

"Forgive our trespasses as we forgive those who have trespassed against us."

Most of us have been taught that forgiveness is an important aspect of living a spiritual life. I wholeheartedly agree, but I want to offer a thought. Have you ever considered that forgiveness does at least as much for you as it does for the other person?

When we hold a grudge, we carry the weight of that negativity with us. We hold onto it, even knowing that it's making our life miserable. So why not let it go?

"But they..."

OK. Let's say they did. How does staying angry at that person going to help you? How is it going to hurt them? Chances are, the offending party isn't bothered; they may not even be aware that they did something wrong, or that you're angry. In other words, their life has not been affected by the issue - while yours has.

Another point to consider is that we all have our faults. None of us is perfect, although we may be trying very hard to be good people. When we are angry at another for some perceived slight, I think it helps to remember that we have committed our own slights, our own "sins" if you will. Of course, we would want others to forgive our shortcomings, so why is it so hard for us to do the forgiving?

Perhaps it's because of the hurt we suffered. Perhaps because it's often hard to step back and realize that the other person is also doing the best the know how to do in the circumstances.

When we recognize that we are all children of Spirit, and that we are all here to learn and grow, it often makes it harder to see the offender in a different, more gentle light.

Remember, too, that forgiving another isn't the same as saying it's OK to act poorly. You can forgive someone their fault even knowing that it shouldn't have occurred. Forgiving someone is simply saying that you recognize that the other person is doing their best, and that you aren't going to hold onto negative thoughts that you don't need and that hurt yor life.

Is it easy? Not always. But the effort will be repaid many times over. Forgiveness is an excellent step toward living a life with Spirit!

In peace,

Lane

Happy Birthday, Sweetheart!

2009-01-28T08:50:00.002-06:00

Today is my lovely and loving wife Glenda's birthday. I'm very excited to celebrate this first birthday together. And, of course, I wish for many, many more.

This morning I sat and watched the snow fall, drinking a hot cup of coffee that She Who Completes Me prepared, as usual. I thought of how very important she is to me, and how lucky I am to have her in my life. I thought of how empty and dull my life had become when I was alone, and how much more fulfilling it is, now that we're together.

I am a very lucky man to have someone with whom to share my days, especially because Glenda believes so strongly in me, and in the things I hope to do. Every day she offers amazingly deep support and comfort. Often, she is the first to give feedback on something I plan to do, or something I've written. Glenda keeps me grounded and balanced. She strengthens my faith in myself when it is weak. When times are difficult, she reminds me of the purpose behind the work - the vision and the mission that drives me.

For all these reasons and many more, I'm going to work my hardest to make this a special day for her. We're going to dinner with many members of her family - at the restaurant she loves best. I'm going to make sure everything is clean when she gets home, so she won't feel the need to do anything. I'll make certain the pets are cared for, and that the driveway is already shoveled.

Most important of all, I'll do all I can to show her how very dear to me she is.

Happy birthday, sweetheart! I hope it's a wonderful day!!

In peace,

Lane

God is Too Big to Fit Into One Religion

2009-01-27T15:18:00.000-06:00

Several weeks ago, Glenda and I made a day-trip to East Peoria. We went so she could show me some of the interesting shops there, and to pick up some incense and such. While there, Glenda saw a button that made perfect sense to both of us:

God is too big to fit into one religion.

Well, of course the Sacred is too large for a single sect or life-way! God is so big that it encompasses ALL beliefs, all religions. In fact, to me, the Sacred is so big that it encompasses everything in existence.

Imagine a loving caring parent - the pure embodiment of compassion. If the child of such a parent did something wrong, do you really think the parent would consign their child to eternal pain and damnation? Why would God do that to its children?

According to many Christians, this is exactly what God intends to do with most of his children - consign them to eternal damnation. Remember that most people on this planet are not Christian. And remember that some Christian sects even believe that it will happen to other Christians who do not believe exactly as they do. Consider that many Protestants believe all Catholics are going to hell, and that many Catholics believe the same of Protestants. Even within the Protestant community, I hear people saying they believe that only their sect will attain eternal happiness while all others are doomed.

How can this be? How could a loving God damn the majority of its children? How could the embodiment of compassion and love be so mean-spirited, childish and vengeful?

To me, the Sacred is the father/mother of us all, and wants above all things for its children to live spiritually-centered lives of service to others. God wants us to "come home," so to speak. God certainly does not want to see most of its children burn in hell.

A few days ago, my friend Mike dropped by for a cup and a chat. As often happens, the discussion turns to spirituality. When we turned to the concept of hell, he said, "Hell is the absence of God."

What an excellent viewpoint! The lack of the Sacred in one's life often leads to many unhappy outcomes, not the least of which is to be separated from the divine nature of all things. It can lead to loneliness and despair. It can lead one to make very unhealthy choices. The potential negative outcomes comprise a list far too long for a single entry. But I hope you see my point.

I believe that all faiths have some amount of truth to them, that they all contain the universal teachings by which we should live our lives. I believe that God "speaks" to us in many ways, and has done so at many times throughout history. God is indeed far too big to fit into a single religion. And the Sacred is nothing if not the pure love a good parent has for its children.

When interacting with people from other life-ways, I believe it's important to remember that, while this person may not share my exact interpretation of the Sacred, we are both children of God. Coming from this mindset, it's easier to remember to show respect and compassion for others. When I remember that we both came from the same source, that we are both doing our best to understand the nature of our existence, that we all make mistakes and have to learn certain lessons, I can more easily interact with that person in a positive manner.

Remembering that God is the ultimate parent of us all is an excellent step toward living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Donations Now Gratefully Accepted

2009-01-21T10:18:00.003-06:00

As you may have noticed, I have added a Donate button to the right-hand navigation. There are a few things that went into this decision. The first being that, recently, I've received emails from readers offering to support my efforts. The second is that this support comes at a very opportune time.

For over a decade, I have done my "spirit work" as a side project, devoting as much time as I could, but spending most of my time simply making a living. I have come to the point that I want to devote far more time, but can only do so by seeking the support of others. Like it or not, I still have to eat. (smile)

All donations will directly support my outreach, writing and speaking endeavors. The funds will be used to offset travel expenses and the printing of materials used in my presentations.

To those who have already donated, thank you very much! Your belief in, and support of, my efforts means a lot to me.

In peace,

Lane

Service is Cool Again

2009-01-20T13:02:00.003-06:00

I'm sure that almost anyone with a blog or other outlet for their words will weigh in on today's inauguration of Barrack Obama as the 44th president of hte United States. But that doesn't mean I can't do the same. I just re-read the transcript of Obama's speech, and one thing stood out clearly to me:

For as much as government can do and must do, it is ultimately the faith and determination of the American people upon which this nation relies. It is the kindness to take in a stranger when the levees break, the selflessness of workers who would rather cut their hours than see a friend lose their job which sees us through our darkest hours. It is the firefighter's courage to storm a stairway filled with smoke, but also a parent's willingness to nurture a child, that finally decides our fate.
Our challenges may be new. The instruments with which we meet them may be new. But those values upon which our success depends - hard work and honesty, courage and fair play, tolerance and curiosity, loyalty and patriotism - these things are old. These things are true. They have been the quiet force of progress throughout our history. What is demanded then is a return to these truths. What is required of us now is a new era of responsibility - a recognition, on the part of every American, that we have duties to ourselves, our nation, and the world, duties that we do not grudgingly accept but rather seize gladly, firm in the knowledge that there is nothing so satisfying to the spirit, so defining of our character, than giving our all to a difficult task.

This is the price and the promise of citizenship.

This is the source of our confidence - the knowledge that God calls on us to shape an uncertain destiny.

Service - the key to fulfillment - is cool again. And so is hope.

May it always be so. May we look forward to four (or more) years of a life with Spirit!

In peace,

Lane

How Enlightened Are You?

2009-01-15T12:13:00.006-06:00

Dan Millman is, without a doubt, my favorite writer and speaker on positive living and spirituality. I've been a devoted reader of his books for more than fifteen years, and have even had the pleasure of attending one of his seminars and meeting him. (Yes, I asked him to sign every book in my collection!)

What I like best about Dan is that he has no pretensions whatsoever, in print and in person. And he offers his ideas in a very clear, easy to understand way. I also really like that he has no problem offering the thoughts of others in his writings - stories, quotes, philosophies, you name it. His willingness to point to others who could be of value to those seeking to live a good life is something I very much respect, and it makes me pay all that much more attention to what he has to offer.

I receive Dan's occasional email newsletters, and always look forward to reading them. They always include several interesting quotes and valuable stories. In his most recent offering, Dan offers this little test, which comes from an anonymous source, a perfect example of Dan's willingness to offer positive thoughts, regardless of where he finds them. So....

How Enlightened Are You?

Well. . .

If you can live without caffeine or nicotine;

If you can be cheerful, ignoring aches and pains;

If you can resist complaining;

If you can understand when loved ones are too busy to give you any time;

If you can take criticism and blame without resentment;

If you can ignore friends' limited educations and never correct them;

If you can treat the rich and poor alike;

If you can face the world without lies or deceit;

If you can conquer tension without medical help;

If you can relax without liquor;

If you can sleep without the aid of drugs;

If you can have no prejudice against creed, color, religion, gender, sexual preference, or politics...

...then you have almost reached the same level of spiritual development as your dog.

How did you do? After taking the test, I realized that I have a few things to work on. Specifically:

1. I need to get rid of my crutches, on both of which I'm working hard.

2. While I'm not a complainer by nature, I could complain even less than I do, especially about the cold weather. (Different post; another time. :-) )

3. If I'm completely objective, I have to admit that I still have some issues with automatic judgements about people of certain political leanings. Taking a minute to consider this one, I realize that there is a lot I'd like to say on the subject, but I'll leave this one for another day, too.

Wow. That's a real eye opener, isn't it? Our dog Sadie is more spiritually advanced than me... and with the exception of a very few individuals, pretty much everyone I know. And yet, I came away from that test smiling, still feeling good about myself, yet with a very valuable lesson.

I highly recommend Dan's books, and encourage you to read them. You can learn all about Dan and his work by visiting his web site. You can also sign up for his newsletter.

To me, Dan is an excellent example of living a life with Spirit!

In peace,

Lane

Foodstock Sunday Dinner Update

2009-01-13T17:05:00.003-06:00

I'm late. I admit it. The last week or so has been a very interesting and busy time, but the headlong pace has prevented me from getting back over here. Here's what's been going on.

In my last post I mentioned the service I was to hold at the Circle of Gratitude & Love Learning Center. I'm pleased to report that it was well-received, and that the minister, Lee Fellers, has invited me to speak again. (No date yet, but I'll be sure to mention it when it's set.)

Although the new year began several days before the service, my message for the day was actually a guided process of looking both behind and ahead. It's fair to say that, on a personal level, I am pretty serious about the whole new year thing. For me, it's a time to look back at the previous year - first to again appreciate the good things and, second, to objectively review the things I could have done better.

In the US today, we do these things by going to New Year's Eve parties, and making resolutions. Well, that's not much different than what humans have done for thousands of years. However, today, the parties that began as feasts of thanks have become more about how drunk we can get than being thankful. And while resolutions concerning weight loss, quitting smoking and other behaviors are certainly positive, there is a deeper level available to those who are interested.

Side Note: Resolutions trace back to ancient Babylonia, circa 2000BC. The most popular resolution of the day was to return borrowed farming equipment!

The first task - appreciating the good things - is important to do on a regular basis. For me, it's a daily thing, but also an important part of many holiday celebrations. During the New Year process, it's my little "This is Your Life" during which I can cherry pick the best times, the best people, and again give thanks for them being part of my life. It reminds me that my life is a good life, much better than that of many people in the country, not to mention the world. It also reminds me how important it is that I do my part. And that leads to the second task, reviewing my own actions and offering the most objective self-appraisal I can.

Objectivity is far different that the self abuse that often infuses our time in front of the mirror. Whether it's wrinkles around the eyes, or less than perfect behavior, we sometimes see things in their worst light, and recriminate to excess for the slightest transgression. Down that road lies self-loathing, not self-improvement.

When I look back, I don't beat myself up for mistakes. What I do look for are the ways I've responded to pressures or difficulties, and asses whether or not my actions were successful. Did they work? Did they help alleviate my stress or keep it high? Was there a better way to address those issues? When done correctly, this self-assessment can pinpoint specific actions or thoughts that can be improved upon.

I also look for behaviors that are less than my best. Looking back over the last year, I can see that, while I am an interested and engaged listener in many situations, there are others in which I could have talked less and listened more. Therefore, this year, I'm paying close attention to how much I'm listening.

Is what I'm doing any different? Not really. It is, perhaps, a more serious way of going about it - not serious as in dour-faced, but as in having respect for the need to do it, and the most effective process to accomplish my goal. To me, however, it's not a problem, or an inconvenience. It's simply putting some effort into living a life with Spirit.

If any of this makes sense to you, and you haven't completed your New Year ritual yet, I invite you to do so now. It's never too late to make a fresh start!

Now, about that dinner! I am pleased to say it was success in every way we hoped. Although we started small, serving 27 meals, we now know that our processes work, as does our time line. Next month, we can ramp up our outreach and serve more meals.

We were very pleased that one of the local papers sent a reporter, and very much appreciated the coverage. For the next dinner, our good friend and avid Foodstock supporter, Larry Weatherford, is coordinating interviews to be broadcast on his radio stations, KOOL Oldies, and Kiss Country, both of which have large local audiences.

Our menu was simple, yet nutritious and fun. The centerpiece was Hearty Chicken Noodle Soup - thick broth that was almost gravy, lots of veggies, and the best noodles anywhere! We also served a no-lettuce salad of tomatoes and cucumbers, rolls and bread, and a dessert of pudding and vanilla wafers.

Next month, the dinner is scheduled for Sunday the 15th, from noon till 3 p.m. (For more info visit the Danville Foodstock web site.) The menu will consist of home-made Meatloaf with brown & ketchup gravies, mashed potatoes, green beans, no-lettuce salad, and dessert. This will also be the beginning of our delivery service for seniors and handicapped individuals. My wonderful wife, Glenda, is overseeing the deliveries, and is seeking volunteers to help.

Some have asked, "what's the point?" It's simple, and I've written (and spoken) about it often: we dervive our greatest fulfillment from our service to others, and to our community as a whole. It is our spiritual duty to reach out to those in need. It's also our spiritual community to be a positive force in our community - to be a part of the glue that binds the community together for the betterment of all. Foodstock concerts help put food on the shelves of the Danville Area Food Pantry, which serves thousands of individuals every year. The Sunday dinners will provide hot, nutritious meals to many who might have one that day without them. Both activities bring members of the community together, strengthening existing bonds while creating new ones.

Being spiritual isn't about "easy" or "fun". It certainly isn't about being "cool". And it most definitely isn't about showing up at church so everyone knows how religious you are. In addition to, and perhaps more important than, our relationship with the Sacred (or God by whatever name), it's about right action. t's about doing what needs to be done, based on our understanding of the spiritual nature of this life.

In order to achieve our greatest potential spiritually, we must constantly strive to do better, to be better. We must constantly look for ways to improve ourselves and our community, which in turn requires that we always keep our eyes (and hearts) open for opportunities to serve. And that is when the real fun begins. That's when you begin to truly live a life with Spirit.

May it always be so.

In peace,

Lane

Activities on Sunday, January 4, 2009

2009-01-01T09:55:00.002-06:00

This is just a quick note to inform those in the Danville, IL, area about two things we'll be doing this coming Sunday, January 4, 2009.

At noon, I will present my first service at the Circle of Gratitude and Love Learning Center. I am very honored - and humbled - that Lee and Susan (our ministers) have invited me to offer the first service of the year - one that I do not take lightly. I will be offering my thoughts on the new year and how to take the most positive early steps.

The Learning Center is a non-denominational, spiritual congregation. All are welcome, regardless of belief system. If you aren't doing anything else, I'd love to meet you.

Later, from 3-6 p.m., we'll be at the Lion's Club building in Tilton, IL, serving our very first Foodstock Charities Sunday Dinner. Last year, we began to produce benefit concerts in support of the Danville Area Food Pantry. This year, we're implementing Phase II by offering a free dinner one Sunday each month. The menu comes courtesy of Bob, who is a professional caterer (among other things). All of Bob's recipes are heart healthy, and very nutirtious. This week we're offering Chicken Vegetable soup and bread, with pudding for dessert. Each month, we'll offer a different meal.

The dinners are FREE, and open to all. There is no qualification necessary. We're serving everything but the sermon! With the current financial crisis, each week more families find themselves in trouble. The Foodstock Charities Dinners are one way that we can help.

If you're in the Danville area, please feel free to stop in to say HI! and enjoy a bowl of home-made soup!

In peace,

Lane

Happy New Year!

2009-01-01T09:38:00.002-06:00

Welcome to 2009! I hope you had a wonderful - and safe! - New Year's Eve celebration. Please excuse my lapse in posting. I spent Christmas week back where I grew up in Northern Virginia. It had been five years since I'd seen my daughter, mother, and both my sisters' families, and it was sure great to be "back home."

What's amazing (to me) about the trip, is that my wonderful new wife, Glenda, wouldn't let me reschedule the trip after we were married. She felt it so important that I follow through on earlier plans that she sacrificed our first Christmas together so that I could still go! Now that's true love!

Obviously, the trip was a safe one; after all, I'm writing this blog post. It was also a wonderful time! Everyone was so excited to hear news of the wedding, as well as the rest of my life. And I got to catch up on all the intimate details about the rest of the family. In the Spring, Glenda and I are going to attempt to make it back so everyone can meet She Who Completes Me.

I got home late the day after Christmas. Within an hour of arriving, I was sleeping off the rigors of a 12-hour road trip. Saturday was spent doing a whole lot of nothing and, other than services, Sunday was about the same. Well, not entirely true. I did spend some time getting the last few things out of my old apartment. (Thanks, Bob!!) Come Monday, however, I was in full work mode, catching up on office duties and doing final exit from the apartment. I'm happy to say that I made the deadline and we no longer have to pay rent in two places.

So. Today begins a new year. As always, I'm going to spend much of the day reflecting on the past year and making decisions about the one to come. This actually began in Babylonia about 4,000 years ago. However, unlike today, when most resolutions focus on losing weight, quitting smoking and similar activities, in Babylonia the most popular resolution was to return borrowed farming equipment! I'm happy to say I don't need to return any spades, shovels, rakes or hoes, much less a tractor or some such!

This year holds many opportunities and I hope to take advantage of them all. To me, the best way to show gratitude for the gift and respect for the giver is to use the gift wisely. And that is what I hope to do. I hope you will take time today - or soon - to reflect on the many wonderful gifts you received during the past year, and to carefully consider how you would like to make the new year even better.

Our life is a spiritual journey, but each year offers a new beginning. Our actions at the beginning are the most important, as they set the tone for all that follows. May we all take strong steps with clear intent. May we enter the new year with spirits fully engaged! May we enjoy a life with spirit!

In peace,

Lane

Happy Holidays, No Matter What They Are!

2008-12-19T11:22:00.006-06:00

The Holiday War has started once again. Amazingly enough, during one of our most important holiday seasons, there's a good chance that, whether you say "Merry Christmas" or Happy Holidays", many people will take offense. It would be funny if it wasn't so destructive to our society.

There are numerous winter traditions - Christian, Jewish, Muslim, and indigenous/nature based life-ways all have winter holidays - and that only scratches the surface. They are all celebrated at approximately the same time, during the shortest days of the year. Why, then, do some Christians get so angry when others acknowledge all holidays, instead of just one? Then again, why do some non-Christians get so upset if someone wishes them a Merry Christmas?

Both groups show a level of intolerance that is in direct conflict with the teachings they espouse. Each side accuses the other of intolerance, and of attacking "their" traditions, while ignoring the hypocrisy of their position. Each side attempts to lay exclusive claim to various holiday traditions, even widespread customs, such as decorated trees &/or decorating the home with greenery (most often coniferous evergreens), the Yule log, caroling. The two main opponents (Christians and "universalists", for lack of a better term) each demand that only their approved greeting be used.

Where is the tolerance and respect demanded by our beliefs? Where is the walk, and not just talk - disrespectful talk at that? All of it seems so pointless, so destructive, so unspiritual.

I have friends of at least a dozen faiths; among the Christians, I can immediately recall ten Protestant denominations, minor differences notwithstanding, not to mention the various types of Catholics I know. More curious is that at least three of the denominations of which I'm familiar do not celebrate Christmas at all. They do not trim a tree; they do not exchange presents; they do not wish each other a Merry Christmas. One of them views the whole affair as decidedly heathen, pagan, and in direct conflict with the Bible.

Why should my Celtic friends refer to their holiday tree using another religion's term? Why should my Jewish friends not call their tree a Hanukkah Tree? And, if our government represents all of the people, why shouldn't we call it a Holiday Tree when it's on government property?

We can all gather around the Holiday Tree and sings carols together. We can sing songs from each tradition, and learn about each other in a respectful way. Isn't that better than arguing over territory and the rights of one above all others? If a person greets us with a phrase different from our own, we can still acknowledge it with a smile. Even better we can show respect for our friends and associates by using their term when greeting them.

Instead of engaging in fruitless, sacrilegious hostility, let us engage in peaceful respect for others in our community. Let us seek harmony and understanding, as taught by our holy books and scriptures. Instead of acting as adversaries, let us join hands as friends and live a life of Spirit together.

In peace,

Lane

The Eye of God

2008-12-16T08:45:00.003-06:00

This is a picture that's been making the rounds on the Internet lately. It's name, according to the email, is the Eye of God.

In actuality, this is a composite picture, taken by the Hubble Space Telescope and Kitt Peak National Observatory (Arizona), of the Helix Nebula. Created by the gasses and dust emitted by a dying star, it's a trillion mile long tunnel of glowing gas.

Regardless of its origin, it sure looks like an eye watching us. And who is to say how the Sacred chooses to make itself known to us? After all, the Sacred shines in all things, all places, so why not in this picture?

Having looked at it many times, I've decided this is the left eye. I base that on the shape of the "lid", and the arch of the "eyebrow" above it. Don't ask me why, but I think the right eye is closed in a wink.

I believe that there is indeed a creator of all things, and that both it and the creation are sacred. I believe that the Sacred watches over us, and will offer us comfort, support, teachings and understanding -- if we ask, if we are open. I believe that, in order to live a life with Spirit, it is essential to see the Sacred in all things. So, when I see the Eye of God in this photograph, it's not really all that different than seeing the Spirit of the Sacred in a blade of grass. Only the scale is different.

Knowing that the Sacred permeates our existence is a very positive step on the road to living a life with Spirit. I hope you enjoy the journey!

In peace,

Lane

Pictures from the Wedding

2008-12-10T09:38:00.004-06:00

Yesterday, I received the first set of pictures from the wedding. I thought I'd take a minute to share them with you.

A final moment of reflection before the beginning of the ceremony.

The vows.

The kiss. Finally! It's done!

Granddaughter Haylee leads the recessional.

Toasting my lovely bride.

Sharing the cake.

Serving the wedding cake to friends and family.

And now, we begin our lives together... living a life with Spirit! May it always be so!

In peace,

Lane

"Let Go and Let God"

2008-12-09T05:36:00.005-06:00

It's been a week since my last post, but with good reason for the lapse: I got married last Sunday! Yes, you read that correctly - the love of my life made an "honest man" out of me. And, boy, does it feel good!

Our wedding was small and informal -- a few dozen close friends and family members. The ceremony and following reception were held at the converted house that serves as sanctuary for the small congregation of which we are a part. And, since I lead a Blues band, we did a Blues reception - pulled pork and beef, with all the trimmings, and home made cakes, neither of them tiered, neither of them white. (Chocolate and carrot, for those interested.)

As folks were "filling the corners" as the Hobbits say, I gave the one and only toast. After acknowledging the chef and his "staff" (my business partner, Bob Stevens and his wonderful wife Sheri), I acknowledged my blushing bride. During my toast, I said that I'd finally "let go and let God." There was far more to say than the brief time allowed, so today I'd like to expand on my short toast. In other words, here's a short story made long:

For years I looked down, not up. I looked at the path that I was determined to walk instead of the path prepared by Spirit. I wasn't listening to the messages and wasn't seeing the signs. On I trudged, slogging through a life of pain and strife. When things went wrong, I dug in my heels and determined to walk with greater commitment. When they still went wrong, I bent my back and put my head down, convinced I could make way against the strong head wind. When nothing changed, I finally became convinced that I was meant to be alone. I wasn't happy about it, but I did come to accept it.

And I was wrong.

Even though my understanding was flawed, I did the thing that was most important: I "let go and let God." I let go of my own preconceived notion of what my life is supposed to be. I let go of my attempt to force the universe into providing me with a mate - and with a specific mate. Yes, I was misdirected, but at least I wasn't attempting to direct things on my own. And I got out of God's way so the divine plan could unfold.

And, lo! There she was. Right where she'd been for months! My same age, with many of the same interests and a life philosophy that perfectly dovetails with my own. Warm, kind, giving in all things and at all times... just the kind of person I myself would like to be. And from the very beginning, she loved me deeply and truly, without judgment or criticism of my faults. How could I have missed seeing such a wonderful woman for so long, I wondered?

I missed her because I was doing my best to supersede the divine plan with my own. I was attempting to force the square peg of the universe into a round hole of my design. And, since the universe is bigger than me, it won.

Thing is, I've let go and let God in many ways. I do the work I am called to do. I follow the path that has called to me for decades, and I'm constantly listening to ensure I walk the path the best that I can. But when it came to my "personal" life, I took matters into my own hands. I forgot that, because our personal relationships are our most important spiritual learning-grounds, Spirit had a plan for me in that regard as well.

Even though I finally let go enough to allow Spirit to take control, I almost messed it up anyway. I allowed my fear to bubble up from down deep inside. I worried that I was making the wrong choice... that I would end up being hurt deeply again. And I almost walked away from the person with which I was meant to share the rest of my life. In other words, I almost grabbed 'hold and took the reins for myself yet again.

My friends stood by, hoping and praying that I'd make the right choice, yet knowing that if they attempted to convince me, I'd resist. Finally, one my closest friends, after hearing me talk about something my new "girlfriend" had done, asked me, "Lane, how many flares does this woman need to launch? What's it going to take to make you realize this is the one?"

In response, I mumbled something akin to "I don't know," and changed the subject. But his questions nagged at me, refusing to leave me alone until I worked through them. And I'm so glad I did finally work through them, because it finally dawned on me that Spirit had known for some time who my perfect mate was. Spirit had a plan all along, I just hadn't been paying attention. With that realization, I finally let go all the way, leaving my fate in the hands of Spirit. I let go completely of my own preconceptions and embraced the love Spirit had sent to me.

Once I fully let go, and put all my faith in Spirit, things began to go much more smoothly. things that had been out of sorts for so long straightened out. Things that I had expected to happen began to come into focus. And for the first time in many years, I found that I was truly happy. Not just surface happy... not just happy in the moment... but happy all the way through, and in every minute of every day.

Today is the second day of our lives together, and I am supremely happy. Many of my friends have asked me if it feels any different and I tell them, "yes, it does. It feels even better!" Even more striking is the fact that I know in my heart, we're just beginning. We have so much to look forward to, so much to do, so much to be. "Thank you" just doesn't seem to cover it, if you take my meaning.

So, if you ever feel as if you're fighting an uphill battle, perhaps it's because you're doing the same thing I was doing. Perhaps you are working at cross purposes with Spirit. Perhaps there's some sign you're missing, some message you aren't hearing. I have learned again that Spirit has a plan for me. I have learned that it's not just about what I'm supposed to be doing; it's also about my entire life! And Spirit has a plan for you, too.

When times are difficult, when things just won't go right no matter what you do, let go. Stop trying to force things. Let them happen instead. Let the good things flow into your life in their own way... in the way Spirit has planned for you. Let go of your own preconceptions. Let go of your determination to be the center of the universe.

Let go and let God. And remember, as I have been reminded, to trust absolutely in Spirit and its plan. Have faith that, no matter what's going on in your life, Spirit has something even better in mind if you'll only get out of the way. In other words, let go and let God.

Wrap yourself with trust in Spirit, and live the life of Spirit you so richly deserve!

In peace,

Lane

Greed Can Kill You

2008-12-01T14:34:00.002-06:00

Black Friday. The best and worst shopping day of the year. The day after we give thanks for our many blessings, and yet so many of us are immediately willing to fight for more. And sometimes, we fight to the death.

Case in point: The WalMart store in Long Island, New York, where a temporary worker was trampled to death by the crowd waiting to enter the store. This poor man was trampled by dozens of shoppers who, feeling flesh beneath their feet, ignored it and ran for the sales. When police attempted to clear the building, they were met with resistance from those who were more interested in saving money than the welfare of another human being.

And this is Christmas?!?! This is how you honor the birth of your lord?!?!

Forgive my bluntness, but you aren't honoring anything except the Golden Calf. This is blatant greed at its worst, and a total disregard for the well-being of others. This is most decidedly NOT what Jesus taught. I'm betting Jesus cried all day for that man. I'm betting he cried in shame at what people have done to his teachings.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to provide a good life for your family. And certainly there is nothing wrong with trying to save a few dollars. But when greed turns you into a rabid, drooling member of a mob... totally thoughtless, totally out of control... then you have a serious problem. And a new TV set isn't going to help.

Most who read this will say to themselves, "it's not my fault." They will remind themselves that they weren't at that store. The will console themselves with the belief that their desire for more and more really isn't greed, per se.

And they will be wrong. For as long as we as a society buy into the More is Better mentality, as long as we finance our "dream life" with deficit spending, as long as we look with pride in ourselves at others who have less, we are a part of this problem. We pretend to be spiritual, yet worship gold and possessions above all else. We espouse a religion -- all the while berating others for not believing as we do -- only to spurn its teachings at every opportunity. And with every greedy act, every act of selfishness, we kill our own spirits. We do harm to our mortal souls. And we perpetuate the status quo mindset that it's all good as long as we get ours.

This is NOT Christmas the way it was explained to me as a child. And it is not Christmas as it should be celebrated.

My deepest sympathy to the family of that poor man. I hope WalMart will set up a fund to help them in this, their greatest loss. If they do, I'll offer what I can, and post a link here so you can do the same if you are of a mind to do so.

As we progress through the next several weeks, I urge all of you to carefully consider the teachings of your chosen religion. Ask yourself if this is the kind of behavior your religion espouses. Ask yourself if a new TV is worth sacrificing your spirit. For those who choose to live a life with Spirit, the answer is obvious. The answer is "NO!"

In peace,

Lane

Giving Thanks

2008-11-26T09:16:00.003-06:00

Tomorrow we celebrate Thanksgiving. And while it seems that the modern version of the holiday centers on stuffing ourselves with turkey, then burping through a football game or two, there are still many who honor the day as it was intended - to pause in our busy lives to give thanks for the blessings we have received.

As I mentioned in my last post, I have many reasons to be thankful. Here are just some of them:

I have a job. Don't laugh - many people are out of work, and the number is rising. So I'm very grateful that I still have a way to earn a living.
I have my health. I recently quit smoking (again), and this time, it's the Final Quit. I still have a lot I'd like to accomplish before moving on, so I'm thankful I'm healthy and can look forward to several more decades.
I have a wonderful, sweet woman who loves me just as I am. And supports my vision, the mission I've taken upon myself to complete. I am truly blessed to have such a strong love in my life. And even more blessed that she has agreed to marry me. I can't say thank you enough for this gift, so I make sure to do so at least twice a day!
I have my family, which loves me unconditionally.
I have my band, and the opportunity to use my gift of music to make others happy.

Of course, there are also many smaller reasons to be thankful. Every day brings new gifts, new joy. And I am thankful for each moment. I believe that it's important to be thankful every day - many times a day. But I also believe that it's good to take this day to pause and reflect on ALL of the good things in our lives... to remind ourselves that, even though they aren't perfect, our lives are gifts for which we should be constantly thankful.

Remember: being thankful for the many blessings you receive is a ciritical part of living a life with Spirit!

In peace,

Lane

The Week to Give Thanks

2008-11-23T09:32:00.002-06:00

This year, I get an entire week in which to give thanks. I say this because today is the day we will have Thanksgiving dinner at our house of worship. We're doing this so that those who are traveling to visit family over the holidays can still take part.

Every year, I make a list of reasons to be thankful. And this year, I think the list is going to be rather long, as I've had some wonderful things come into my life this year. I'll post the list Thursday instead of today, as I want to really give some serious thought to it before writing it out and putting it on the Net.

So why mention it today? First, because today starts my week of Thanksgiving. Second, because I hope to encourage you to make your own list. I know that many - myself included - have suffered some hardships, especially with the meltdown of our economy. But even in such circumstances, there are many things to be thankful for. I hope each of you will take some time to think about the GOOD things in your life, and will remember to be thankful for each one.

I'll see you in a few days. Until then, however, be thankful!

In peace,

Lane

Today We All Are Called to Be Disciples

2008-11-18T09:35:00.003-06:00

The Sunday before last, we sang a Christian hymn at service. I was very impressed with this particular song, because of the many wonderful ideas it offers. I decided right then and there to share it with you here.

Today We All Are Called to Be Disciples

Today we all are called to be
Disciples of the Lord
To help to set the captive free
Make plow-share out of sword
To feed the hungry quench their thirst
Make love and peace our fast
To serve the poor and homeless first
Our ease and comfort last

God made the world and at its birth
Ordained our human race
To live as stewards of the earth
Responding to God's grace
But we are vain and sadly proud
We sow not peace but strife
Our discord spreads a deadly cloud
That threatens all of life

Pray justice may come rolling down
As in a mighty stream
With righteousness in field and town
To cleanse us and redeem
For God is longing to restore
An earth where conflicts cease
A world that was created for
A harmony of peace

May we in service to our God
Act out the living word
And walk the road the saints have trod
Till all have seen and heard
As stewards of the earth may we
Give thanks in one accord
To God who calls us all to be
Disciples of the Lord

Whether your are Christian or not, I believe this hymn offers many excellent suggestions for living a life with Spirit. Instead of telling you how I feel about it, however, I'd like to ask you to think about the words, and what they mean. I hope you will enjoy them as much as I do.

In peace,

Lane

I Quit!

2008-11-17T08:19:00.004-06:00

Today, I am officially a non-smoker. After losing a 4-year Quit, and then stopping and restarting more times than I can count, this is The Last Quit. I thought I'd mention it here for those who might like to follow my progress.

I've recently set up another blog - The Diary of a Quitter - and will post almost daily to that one. For the most part, I won't be discussing my Quit here. But I did want to let readers know about this exciting new adventure.

In peace,

Lane

Lessons From Our Ancestors

2008-11-15T13:45:00.001-06:00

Recently, I came across a poster that offered ten lessons attributed to the “Native Americans.” Now, there is no such thing as a “pan-Indian” life-way. Each nation had its own ways, its own myths, legends, teaching stories, even technology. However, there are are many common philosophies, just as there are common threads among all religions. And it is to these common threads the poster alludes.

I admire the concepts offered, and have decided to keep this list handy, although I will not refer to them, as does the poster as “The Native American Ten Commandments,” and changed the name by which the Sacred is called. (Native Americans don’t have a “ten commandments”, even within a specific nation, and I prefer to stay closer to their original concept of “God” instead of attempting to force their beliefs into a different religious structure. See my previous post on assimilation for more on this.)

Here then is my slight edit of the list of lessons, each followed by a thought or two.

The earth is our mother. Care for her.
Even a rat knows to not foul its own nest. Caring for the earth is no different that keeping our own house in order. It’s merely a question of scale of thinking.

Honor all your relations.

We are related to everything in creation. Everything deserves respect.

Open your heart and soul to the Mystery.

This seems obvious – live a life of Spirit.

All life is sacred. Treat all beings with respect.

The wanton destruction of species, whether predator or prey, only serves to damage the complex web of all life.

Take from the earth what is needed and nothing more.

Greed is NOT good, especially on a global, environmental level. To take more than is needed is to leave less for the ever-growing population to come.

Do what needs to be done for the good of all.

Live your life in service to others. Virtually every Life Way teaches us to find our fulfillment in what we do for others, not in the “things” we accumulate.

Give constant thanks to the Mystery for each new day.

Be grateful for all you receive. Constantly immerse yourself in the Sacred that flows through all of creation.

Speak the truth, but only of the good in others.

It is just as hurtful to speak badly of others as it is to lie. The only person you should be talking to is the person themselves who is in question. And if you must talk to someone about their negative behavior or thoughts, it should be done in a caring, respectful manner, with the goal of helping them live a better life. It should never be done in anger. To all others, you we should confine ourselves to only speaking of the positive in others.

Follow the rhythms of nature. Rise and retire with the sun.

To me, this one isn’t about going to sleep at sundown. Rather, it tells us when to begin and end our workday. After the sun has gone down, it’s time to be with family – eating, telling stories, singing… being.

Enjoy life’s journey, but leave no tracks.

We should each strive to leave the world a better place than it was when we arrived. Enjoy the gifts, relish in the many wonderful things a good life brings, but remember that we are only stewards, charged with the responsibility to care for the rest of creation. This ensures that future generations will also have a wondrous world in which to live.

I hope you will take the time to carefully consider each lesson. I see no conflict between these teachings and those of the religions I’ve studied. In fact, they seem to reinforce them. I think they would be an excellent touchstone for anyone seeking to live a life of Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Assimilation is Futile

2008-11-12T16:32:00.005-06:00

In the popular series Star Trek: Next Generation, the Borg are a recurring enemy. A "collective" community, the Borg assimilate all cultures with which they come in contact - whether they like it or not. Their response to any attempt to escape is, "you will be assimilated. Resistance is futile."

Forgive my audacity, but my reply is "oh, no, it isn't!!

Why am I talking about a science fiction TV series? Because I was reminded of it the other day as I read a letter to the editors of USA Today. In the letter, an emigre from Eastern Europe suggested assimilation as the best option for Muslims in the US. His reason was that he himself came to America because he wanted to live the American dream. For me, that's a total paradox. Not since the Puritans did the "American dream" include religious persecution. In fact, we've enjoyed constitutional protection for freedom of religion since the document was written. This right was then strengthened with further legislation in the 20th century... to guarantee that each of us could worship in the manner that best suits us.

Evidently, the problem is that a few devout Muslims wanted to take a few moments for prayer at the correct times, according to their scriptures. And, while it is true that there are five times each day, only three of these would impact normal working hours. Furthermore, they could be coordinated with morning and afternoon breaks (required by law) and lunch break. What's the big deal, I wonder?

Would the letter writer have felt the same way if the persons being persecuted were Christians who felt the need for multiple daily prayers? Or Jews? Would others have reacted negatively if it was about people of their own religion? I don't know, but I have a feeling that there is some level of double standard being applied here.

To me, one of the biggest problems with our country, and our world, is that we're too religious and not spiritual enough. So many people are so fully wrapped up in their own dogma that they forget it's OK for others to follow different belief structures. They're so busy thumping others with their religious book, they forget to actually follow the teachings. Come on, folks! If someone wants to pray more, let them! In fact, here's a thought: join them with a prayer of your own!

Let me offer a thought from Wade Davis, noted Canadian anthropologist:

The world in which you were born is just one model of reality. Other cultures are not failed attempts at being you. They are unique manifestations of the human spirit.

I have no desire to be assimilated. Nor do I wish to see anyone else forced away from their own understanding of the nature of the Sacred. I would go so far as to say that assimilation itself is futile. We are different one from another, and that is as it should be. If we all wore the same clothes, we'd be wearing uniforms. If we all wore the same religion, it would be an enforced religion. Think about that for a minute.

Christians - even just the protestant varieties - can't agree on interpretation of numerous biblical concepts and passages. How are we ever going to force everyone on the planet into a single paradigm?

Celebrate the differences! Instead of turning up your nose at someone because they pray differently, or at different times, why not worry about your own spiritual journey? Because, to me, if you are worrying about how or when a person prays, you aren't living a life with Spirit.

In peace,

Lane

Catching Up - Again!

2008-11-11T08:47:00.002-06:00

Good morning! As you already know if you've been reading here, I've had a very difficult time posting consistently. Believe me when I tell you that I'd much rather have had the time! (smile) Today, I just wanted to say "HI!" and get on track for a minimum of two posts per week.

I'd also like to inform you that I have another blog that was just set up yesterday. The Diary of a Quitter is my journal about quitting smoking. I am at T-6 days and gearing up for my FINAL quit! Feel free to check that one out as well.

Here's hoping this post finds you well and happy... and productive!

Fighting Global Hunger - at HOME

2008-09-25T15:13:00.003-05:00

Greetings once again. And, again, after a long absence. I have been far too busy for far too long. Thankfully that is changing, and I'll tell you about that some other time, I'm sure. Today, however, I wanted to call your attention to the problem of global hunger and poverty. I know - the economy is on thin ice right now, and that's actually one of the reasons for this post. Let me explain:

Jim Wallis is an evangelical minister with a liberal bent. He often takes to task the far Right evangelicals who, he believes, are too strict in their interpretations of the Bible, and too strict in the religiously based laws thet attempt to have passed. I receive an e-letter from his Sojourners organization regularly, and often find myself nodding in agreement to what I read.

Today, Jim offered this article, which is also on his blog (to which I've linked). After reading the article, I decided ,for the first time, to post a response on his blog. By the time I hit the fifth or sixth paragraph, I decided it was rude to post that much of my own opinion on his web site. So I'm writing this post, and will then return to his blog to post a comment with a link for those who want to read more.

If you'd like to read the full article, please do so now.

For those who prefer a poor synopsis, Jim wrote about the letter recently released by MICAH Challenge USA.Part of the MICAH Network, a global Christian organization, they called to American Christians to help reduce poverty worldwide. It's an extremely important goal, and I support it. I believe that our government should support all such efforts, not only with financial aid, but also in collaring those corporations that do severe economic, evironmental, and social damage abroad, all in the name of profit (spelled g-r-e-e-d).

However, now more than ever, what with the economy struggling, and the drastic effect it's already having on our communities. And it's going to get worse before it gets better. Here then, is the response I almost left on Jim's blog.
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I agree completely that the US should lead the way in eliminating poverty around the world. And while I agree that we should all contribute to the rest of the world, I am currently focused on the United States itself. Especially now, with the economy in shambles with more fallout coming, there will more and more people who need help to feed their families. In my small town of Danville, population about 30,000, our food pantry served more than 8000 people last year. People laid off from factories with no notice. Seniors who have had to welcome their children and grandchildren into their home due to some economic distress, now having to feed extra mouths from a fixed income.

I became aware of our local food pantry when my band released its first CD. We wanted to commemorate the event with something special, and decided a benefit for our community was the best way to do that. And, looking around the community, we believed that there was no cause more worthy than helping those who couldn't feed their families. This is how Foodstock Charities was formed. It began with a hastily coordinated benefit concert. Instead of raising $500 -- as estimated by many (pessimistically) -- we managed to raise just over FIVE THOUSAND dollars in food and donations. And every penny and every pea collected went directly to the food pantry.

Those who performed did so for free, in a hall donated by the local community college, through a PA system rented by sponsors. Dozens of local businesses donated goods to gift baskets raffled or auctioned at the event. The expenses that cropped up at the last minute were covered by the band itself; and we also donated food and all proceeds from CD and merchandise sales the day of the event.

Now, eight months later, we're producing an even larger event. The Foodstock Fall Festival will be held Saturday, October 11th, 10-7. More bands, more food more fun! And the community is making an even stronger showing of support. More radio stations and tv affiliates are interested. More businesses are donating to the raffles. And we hope to raise a LOT more money! Our goal is $52,000 a year - a thousand a week, to help feed those in the greatest need. We may not make it this year, even with two events. But we're going to get a LOT closer than we imagined for the first year.

Even better is that we now have friends, all musicians, in other cities around the country who want to mount local Foodstock events. Sacramento and Nashville are already in pre-production. San Francisco, Chicago, Indianapolis, Champaign (IL) and others are all talking seriously about next year. So we set up a new site to serve as an umbrella for everyone who chooses to participate.

Why are people so positive in their response? I think there are a few reasons. First, EVERY penny a person contributes goes directly to the program we're supporting. NO ONE is making a dime. We're paying for the web sites, and pretty much everything else necessary to mount the event. Even the businesses know that it's ALL to help us feed babies! How can you not like that?

I've worked in the non-profit world for many years, and I realize that there are costs involved. I applaud all organizations that contain their expenses according to NICB guidelines. It's tough to do. And I mean no disrespect. But when everyone involved knows it's ALL for the cause, it adds to the excitement.

Second is that it started with just four people. Ordinary citizens....mostly lower middle class, with low class roots. A band... a bunch of musicians. And not Jazz musicians. Not Gospel. Nothing upscale, in other words. A Blues band of all things. Two geezers and the son of the youngest of the two, plus the close friend who does graphics and videos for us. And we did it all with the help of a handful of people to help us. Every business that took part spoke with one of us. Every sponsor, every contact, it all came through a small group of folks. It's was so totally "homey", which made people feel directly involved in a community sort of way.

Starting so small also showed that a few people could create great change. It didn't take a huge organization. It only took a little determination, and a drive to do something positive for our community. It gave people a sense of empowerment, especially since they were contributing to their own community.

For those interested, I hope you'll check out Danville Foodstock, perhaps make a donation to our October drive. We have a permanent account that goes directly to the food pantry via PayPal. It's their account; we just have a donation button to send you there. We greatly appreciate all contributions!!

If you prefer, take a look at Foodstock Charities. This site is brand new and very small, but bookmark it for later, because it looks as if it will grow very quickly. This is where you'll find information about Foodstock events around the US.

The point of this post, however, is to point out two things:

1. Yes, poverty is a global problem. And, yes, the US should do a lot more to help reduce it.

2. We need to work in our own country at least as dilligently, and it doesn't take that many people to get something really good started.

You can be the catalyst for change in your community. You can be the one that says, "hey, here's something that needs doing" and get it done. And here's the kicker - that's what living a life with Spirit is all about.

2008-08-10T16:46:00.004-05:00

I'm very excited to tell you about two charity projects, both produced by my band Deeper Blues: OPERATION: DEEPER BLUES and Foodstock Charities. First the what, then the why.

The purpose of OPERATION: DEEPER BLUES is to show our support for and appreciation of our Armed Forces serving in combat zones. To us, it isn't about whether or not you support the war - or any war for that matter - it's about offering a small bit of thanks for those who serve in our military and under the most dangerous of circumstances.

From now on, for every Dig the Hole CD Deeper Blues sells, we will donate a FREE copy to OPERATION: DEEPER BLUES for distribution to servicemen and women serving in Iraq, Afghanistan and other combat zones. In addition, we are accepting donations to pay for even more CDs. Ever dollar donated buys another CD!

Every Dollar

Buys a CD!

Click on the button above to donate through our PayPal account, using your credit card or PayPal account. Every dollar buys another CD for our troops - Deeper Blues takes nothing, and also contributes one CD for every CD sold. We're even paying shipping out of our own pockets!

Foodstock Charities grew out of Danville Foodstock. It all started as a way for the band to commemorate the release of Dig the Hole, our first CD. We wanted to do something special, and worthwhile... something more than a "CD Release Party". We looked around our community and saw that there was a great need at Danville Area Food Pantry.

The pantry serves thousands of people every year, people who are unable to feed themselves and their children. Many have suffered layoffs in are factories or other businesses as the economy has worsened. Others are senior citizens on a fixed income. Of these, many have taken grown children, even grandchildren, back into their homes - again due to job loss or other economic setback.

In less than five weeks, the band produced a benefit concert that raised $5000 in food and donations. (For more info, see Danville Foodstock.) We also caught the community's attention. So much so, in fact, that we were immediately asked to mount another, even larger, event in the fall. The Danville Foodstock Fall Festival will take place at Lincoln Park, Saturday, October 11th, 2008. Nine hours (or more) of fun, food and music. All to raise funds for the food pantry.

Now, truth be told, we though it would take several years to build our event to the point that we'd be able to move it to Lincoln Park, which is the largest park in the city limits. (Ellsworth is larger, I think, but Lincoln will hold ten thousand people, so we're not worried.) Just achieving that milestone in less than a year is quite a feat! But it gets better! You see, Foodstock is going national!

Friends around the country heard about what we were doing. And some began to take notice. Now, groups in Sacramento, CA, and Nashville, TN are working to mount their own Foodstock events. I can't tell you how pleased I am... and how honored!

To keep up, we've created a new web site: Foodstock Charities. This will be the national rallying point for all Foodstock events. Soon, we will also accept donations at this national level for those who would like to spread their giving to the most neediest areas in which we work.

The wonderful thing about Foodstock - the thing that makes it different from almost every other benefit or charity organization - is that no money is taken off the top! That's right... no expenses, no salaries, nothing! We are proud to say that every penny and every pea donated goes directly to the food programs we support. One hundred percent of your donation goes to the cause!

OK. That's the what. Now, let's talk about the why. The answer is simple: because it's necessary, even required. Every religion and life way that I have studied teaches that charity and compassion for your fellow man (and woman) is a prerequisite to living a life with spirit. Listen to the words of Jesus of Nazareth:

Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did it to one of these brothers of Mine, even the least of them, you did it to Me. ~ Matthew 25:40 - New Am. Standard

But when you give a feast, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind, and you will be blessed, … you will be repaid. ~ Luke 14: 13,14 - New King James

One of the Five Pillars of Islam is charity. Members of indigenous tribes prove their worth to the community in part by how they serve the neediest members of the village. Here is what Buddha had to say about charity:

The charitable man has found the path of salvation. He is like the man who plants a sapling, securing thereby the shade, the flowers, and the fruit in future years. Even so is the result of charity, even so is the joy of him who helps those that are in need of assistance; even so is the great Nirvana. We reach the immortal path only by continuous acts of kindliness and we perfect our souls by compassion and charity.

Study the teachings of your religion or life way. What does it tell you? I'll give you long odds that it teaches charity for those less fortunate, to show compassion no matter the color of the skin, the religion or the citizenry of others. We are taught to reach across all boundaries and obstacles and to do unto others as we would have done to us. And that's the foundation of why.

But, for us, it goes deeper. When Gary and I first met, we both though we had reached the pinnacle of our respective careers. Sure, we still had more music to play, more songs to sing, but at my age (52 next week), the odds of another chance at something more than regional work seemed rather slim. And while I wouldn't say we were happy with it, we were resigned to it, and grateful for the things we'd already gotten to do.

But it was magic the night we first played together. I've been playing music for 47 years now, 39 on bass... and more than two and a half decades as a professional, with a lot of semi-pro work before that. Gary's a decade younger than me, but still has 25 years as a career musician to his credit. And I've never been a part of anything like this. Gary is - without a doubt - the best, most soulful guitarist I've ever know, much less played with. And the Blues we play is deeper than anything I've ever done before. Once again, I've been blessed by a Gift of Spirit - and Gary feels the same way.

We know we've received an incredible opportunity, and we know from whence it came. And we believe that the best way we can honor that gift, the best way to show how truly grateful we are, is to give something back to the world. It is for that reason, and that reason alone, that Deeper Blues is so committed to its charity work. We believe it's necessary... that it's required of us. And we accept that requirement with open hearts and hands.

I hope you will join us in one - or both! - of our endeavors. We believe that both of them are very important to the vitality of our community. And we believe that, for anyone wishing to live a life of spirit, it is crucial to practice acts of pure charity and compassion.

Spiritual Math

2008-07-31T11:13:00.005-05:00

I just received an email from a friend... one of those "send it to your entire address book" kind of things. Now, I don't normally pass these on, but this one is a bit different. Take a look at this amazing math:

1 x 8 + 1 = 9
12 x 8 + 2 = 98
123 x 8 + 3 = 987
1234 x 8 + 4 = 9876
12345 x 8 + 5 = 98765
123456 x 8 + 6 = 987654
1234567 x 8 + 7 = 9876543
12345678 x 8 + 8 = 98765432
123456789 x 8 + 9 = 987654321

1 x 9 + 2 = 11
12 x 9 + 3 = 111
123 x 9 + 4 = 1111
1234 x 9 + 5 = 11111
12345 x 9 + 6 = 111111
123456 x 9 + 7 = 1111111
1234567 x 9 + 8 = 11111111
12345678 x 9 + 9 = 111111111
123456789 x 9 +10= 1111111111

9 x 9 + 7 = 88
98 x 9 + 6 = 888
987 x 9 + 5 = 8888
9876 x 9 + 4 = 88888
98765 x 9 + 3 = 888888
987654 x 9 + 2 = 8888888
9876543 x 9 + 1 = 88888888
98765432 x 9 + 0 = 888888888

Brilliant, isn't it?

And look at this symmetry:

1 x 1 = 1
11 x 11 = 121
111 x 111 = 12321
1111 x 1111 = 1234321
11111 x 11111 = 123454321
111111 x 111111 = 12345654321
1111111 x 1111111 = 1234567654321
11111111 x 11111111 = 123456787654321
111111111 x 111111111 = 12345678987654321

Now, take a look at this...

101%

From a strictly mathematical viewpoint:

What Equals 100%? What does it mean to give MORE than 100%?

Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%?

We have all been in situations where someone wants you to GIVE OVER 100%.

How about ACHIEVING 101%?

What equals 100% in life?

Here's a little mathematical formula that might help answer these questions:

If:

A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z

Is represented as:

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 1 3 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26.

If:

H-A-R-D-W-O-R- K

8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%

And:

K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E

11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%

But:

A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E

1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%

THEN, look how far the love of God will take you:

L-O-V-E-O-F-G-O-D

12+15+22+5+15+6+7+15+4 = 101%

Therefore, one can conclude with mathematical certainty that:

While Hard Work and Knowledge will get you close, and Attitude will get you there, It's the Love of God that will put you over the top!

I don't know if this is proof that the spiritual essence of life is the most important, but it sure adds up that way, doesn't it? (Sorry, couldn't resist!)

Feel free to copy this bit of math and send it to your friends!

(Fresh) Waterfalling

2008-07-27T13:56:00.007-05:00

Recently, the discussion on nuclear power has taken a new turn. With the threat of Peak Oil, not to mention the current ( and, most likely, the continuing) spike in fuel prices, everyone is talking about alternate energy sources. And much to the ire of environmentalists, nuclear energy is on the table more visibly than ever before.

The problem, however, is the environmental cost of extracting, then using, nuclear fuel. Perhaps the most over-looked aspect of building more nuclear plants is the dramatic, negative effect it will have on the water supply.

The rapid decline of our fresh water supply is overshadowed by Global Warming, Peak Oil and continuing unrest in (or dislike of) the oil rich countries of the world. And the discussion is often unproductive, either missing the point entirely, or coming at it from the wrong direction. But, that's a whole 'nother Oprah, as my best friend would say, so let's stay on point.

Our lakes and rivers are evaporating, if not literally, then figuratively. It doesn't matter why as much as it matters that it's happening. Water supports all life on this planet - not just yours and mine, but all plants and animals. As our rivers and lakes dry up, and our glaciers melt away, desertification begins. Sure, we can desalinate sea water. In small quantities, it's even feasible on some level to do so. But we cannot desalinate nearly enough to handle the demands of so many people and the agriculture required to support them... much less support the rest of the planet.

In the middle of this is the Grand Canyon. And in the middle of that, way down at the bottom there, is the Colorado River, one of our most important rivers. One of the most recognizable landmarks in the world, and arguably one of the most important, it has faced the threat of uranium mining for decades. In fact, the Orphan Mine was closed almost 40 years ago. Unfortunately, the site is still not cleaned up, and two major defense contractors are refusing to do their part. But they still feed from the public trough, but that's yet another Oprah. This is just one of many sites that continue to pose an significant environmental - and health! - danger. But there are those that can't wait to open hundreds of mining claims on public land, threatening thousands upon thousands of acres of land, and the water the flows through them and resides in their aquifers.

This is madness. The is suicide. Are we really that stupid?

The Grand Canyon is again threatened by mining.

Well, no, we aren't. However corporations exist solely to consume resources, turning them into marketable products that are sold for a profit. That's what corporations do. They seldom have a conscience about silly things like survival of the species. (Yes, there are socially conscious corporations; they are the minority by far, most especially in the oil and nuclear industries.) And it appears that at least some corporations are indeed this stupid. Our wisdom, or lack thereof, will be demonstrated by what we do about their stupidity.

We have what another close friend calls a Binary Solution Set: we can let them do it, standing by and watching the destruction of the habitat that supports us, or we can stop them by standing up for our right to life, and for the right to life of the entire ecosystem. I choose the latter.

The first step is to write an email or letter to every politician that represents you. Not just federal and state, but also locally, at the county and city level. Include every appropriate agency, including environmental, agricultural, health and more. It's not hard to create a form letter, then copy it to each party. And it wouldn't take more than a few hours to reach out to every one of them.

The second step is to get the dialog going by writing letters to the editors of every publication you can. Again, the local papers and magazines, but also regional and national outlets. Of course, there are numerous sites on the web where you can get involved in the discussion.

The third step is to reach out to family, friends, coworkers and others with whom you interact regularly. Encourage them to get involved as well; get them engaged.

A few things to remember:

Walk the talk. Strive to increase your own conservation efforts as an example to others.
Be civil and respectful. Certainly there are legions of loudmouths in our world (still another Oprah), but that doesn't mean you have to be one of them. Committing yourself to civil discourse will win you far more compatriots than lowering yourself to the current standard to which many hold.

Air and water are the two most important natural resources we have. To do further harm to them will destroy the system that supports us. We cannot wait to act. We must all stand up and be heard. Our children require it.

Memorial Day - 2008

2008-05-26T10:40:00.005-05:00

Today, we pay our respects to those who have given their lives in our wars. I point this out because so many people confuse the meaning of this day with Veteran's Day, which honors all service men and women. While all veterans deserve respect, those who have died in service to our country deserve a special day just for them.

And what do most Americans do today? They look for sales. They plan barbecues and parties. Very few spend much time really thinking about the meaning of the day.

Things were a bit different in our house when I was growing up. Sure, we still pulled out the grill, but we also took time to think about our fallen brothers and sisters. My father - a true, albeit reluctant, war hero - lost many men under his command in Viet Nam. And he grieved for every one. He lost friends and loved ones, and missed them terribly.

For the past several days, I've thought about this entry. The thing that came back around again and again was that so many of these deaths were unnecessary. I look at what's going on today and I know that we've lost thousands of sons and daughters that didn't need to die. And I grieve for every one.

Moving forward, I'm going to do something that I believe will honor our fallen better than anything else I could do. I'm going to work for peace. Peace for all, peace in our time. How better to honor the sacrifice than to work for a time when such sacrifice is no longer needed.

Today, I hope you'll join me in offering a prayer for the fallen. I hope you'll take at least a few minutes to think about how, working together, we can create a world where warriors aren't needed... where our governments do not fight over resources... where countries actually learn to cooperate to the benefit of all.

To those we have lost, I say thank you from the bottom of my heart. For your courage. For your sacrifice.

Common Ground

2008-05-25T20:50:00.004-05:00

One thing I talk about a lot in my writing, and when I speak, is the commonality of beliefs among people. Yes, there are surface differences between the various religions and life ways on this planet. But when you dig deep down, so much of it is the same.

We spend so much time bickering over the petty issues that we lose sight of the fact that we are all children of Spirit. We are all sisters and brothers. It saddens me to think of how much trouble this bickering has caused or the history of man.

I have friends who follow many religions - Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Hindu, Buddhism, Shinto, Rastafarian, and indigenous life ways beyond count. From each, I learn more about their teaching stories and beliefs. And I gain new understanding, not only of them, but of myself and the universe.

When I speak to groups, especially religious groups, I seek the common ground. I promote the ideals and ethics that we all share. I do not disclude others by focusing on one religion to the detriment of all others. And I certainly don't disrespect or talk down life ways that are not my own.

Now, there are some - OK, many - who will brow beat with their holy book anyone within striking distance who will stand still long enough for the assault. If the victim of such abuse resists or disagrees in any way, then the judgements begin. There are two things intrinsically wrong with this in my mind:

1. It's totally contrary to virtually every life way and religion. So, basically, you're ignoring your reglion's teachings by acting like this, and

2. It's probably the worst way of encouraging someone to convert.

Sometimes I really wish folks like that would just SHUT UP! and walk the talk. Show me by the example of your life that your way is worthy of further study and possible conversion. How dare you try to force others. Even Spirit doesn't force people. Why should you?

Reacting in anger, however, is never really an answer, is it? I've found that it's much more productive to listen politely and actively to the other person, then perhaps offering examples of common belief. It's not "I'll convert you before you convert me". It's more about "I don't need to be converted". And guess what? We can still be friends!

We all stand on sacred ground, and we are all children of Spirit. We are here to coexist peacefully with each other - in spite of our petty differences. And learning to rise above those differences and revel in our commonality is a wonderful way to live a life with Spirit.

The Summer Begins

2008-05-24T20:25:00.001-05:00

Welcome back - though somewhat belatedly. This has turned out to be one of the busiest years of my life. So busy, in fact, that I have simply been unable to accomplish everything I want/need to get done. . . including this blog and other writing duties.

I'm not complaining, but apologizing for the lapses. So far, it's been a wonderful year in many ways. Deeper Blues is doing well, and things look even better on the horizon. My work with Eden Electronics is still immensely rewarding, but time consuming. Thankfully, founder David Nordschow willingly allows me to coordinate my work with him to fit my schedule, no matter how crazy things get.

Deeper Blues is rapidly approaching it's two-year mark. I don't know if that should be called "birthday", "anniversary" or what. But it sure feels good to get there. Since I first met him, I haven't been shy about saying it: Gary Jones is the best Blues guitarist I've ever heard, much less worked with. This band is, without a doubt, a dream come true - a true gift of Spirit.

For the first 15 months of our relationship, Gary and I immersed ourselves in a vision and committed ourselves to a mission and a goal. Countless nights of discussion over coffee, merciless rehearsals, and a weekly, very informal and low key performance at which to fine tune our sound. We emerged from our second season at Charlotte's at the end of August, 2007, with a CD in final production, but without a drummer. Aaron Bouslog, the fine young percussionist who had been working with us since the previous summer moved to Carbondale to pursue a rigorous education in music at Southern Illinois University.

Gary's son, James, quickly asked for an audition. From the first song, I knew he'd not only be OK, given time and encouragement, he'd be outstanding. After three weeks of constant rehearsal, James made his debut with Deeper Blues at a special Saturday performance at the end of September last year - right back at Charlotte's where the band began. Our family and friends were amazed, as were Gary and I. I've never seen or heard a better debut.

Since then, the band has been rehearsing, writing tons of new music and preparing to tour the US and internationally. We've already played Chicago, Buffalo Grove (near Chicago), Nashville and Chattanooga, and have begun our third season at Charlotte's. In addition to the full-production CD Dig the Hole, released in January, the band recently released the Homegrown Vol. 1 CD, which includes three live tracks and two recorded down and dirty (like the old days) with virtually no "production" at all. We've also released a companion Homegrown DVD that includes a trio of music videos and behind the scenes mini-documentaries. By the end of the summer, we'll have one more of each.

In the coming months, we'll be visiting Nashville again (at least twice), Cincinnati, Indianapolis, Chattanooga and Chicago, with other cities being added. In November, we'll be traveling to California for several weeks, including taking part in an extremely interesting "Rock School" competition - as judges and headliners of a "faculty" concert. We'll also are working to give a presentation to the Rio Linda High School student body on Music Appreciation, and to the music students on what it takes to be a professional musician.

You may wonder what this band has to do with living a life with Spirit. For starters, remember what I've said before - every day is sacred; everything we do should be based on our commitment to living a spiritual life. If we aspire to that goal, everything we do is founded on our spirituality. But it's far deeper than that. Early on, I described this opportunity as a gift of Spirit, and I truly believe it is. We all do our best to honor that gift by giving our all, and by committing ourselves to a higher goal, a higher cause. Moving forward, I hope to share with you more about this wonderful adventure.

It's a gorgeous night, and the stars are out in force and the lake, acting as a mirror doubles them nicely. I'm going to go sit on my balcony, pet a cat or two, and enjoy it while I can. Because in just a few short weeks, there will be bajillions of nightfliers buzzing around in search of warm blooded food - like me! (smile)

Tomorrow, a thought or two on religion. Then Monday, it's all about Memorial Day and those who have given their lives in our country's wars.

It's been far too long, and I've been far too busy

2008-03-21T18:16:00.001-05:00

Wow, it's a been a lot longer than I realized! Since my last post, which was almost a year and a half ago, there's been so much going on, I'm not even sure where to begin. It seems to me that, this time, it's best to do a quick overview. In subsequent posts, I'll go into more detail.

Before I begin, however, I'd like to thank those who have e-mailed me during the interim. I appreciate knowing there are some who find this blog - and the A Life with Spirit web site - useful. I've made a promise to myself that I would post at least once a week in the future.

Now... let's see. Where to start?

I guess the best place is my band, Deeper Blues. After many bumps and potholes, we released our first CD, Dig the Hole, in late January. So far, the response has been incredible, and we're looking forward to touring the US, and perhaps Europe, this year. I'll tell you lots more about this in coming posts. For now, here's a shot of the band, and you can learn more on our web site and our MySpace page.

And that brings me to my next point... to celebrate the release of the CD, we produced a benefit for our local food pantry. Dubbed Foodstock "08, it was a rousing success, raising over $5,000 with more coming in every day. Even better, we were asked to produce another concert at the end of the summer or early fall. The picture above was taken at the first (of many, we hope!) event.

I'm also pleased to report that in the near future, I'll be included in a collection of essays, tentatively titled Servant-Leadership: Heart, Mind, Spirit. I'm still in shock, and am thoroughly honored to be included in a series of books that has included writings by such notable management gurus as Robert Greenleaf, Larry Spears, Steven Covey, Max Depree and many others.

During this next year, I hope to visit many parts of the US while on tour with Deeper Blues. At the same time, I will be investigating speaking opportunities with various religious, civic and business organizations. Of course, I will announce any appearances here, and will look forward very much to meeting any who have supported this blog.

So...that's the short version. I'll be back soon with greater detail on each of these and, of course, I'll continue to offer my thoughts on spirituality and living a life with spirit! To those celebrating holidays this time of year, I wish you the very best, and encourage you to remember the reason for the season. May we all be blessed during this special time of year.

Lane

Happy Thanksgiving to All

2006-11-23T11:52:00.001-06:00

Once again, we've arrived at the time of year that we give thanks for the many good things in our lives. Sometimes that can be difficult. But even if it seems as if the entire sky is raining down on you, there are things for which to be thankful.

This summer has been a tough one. My new guitarist has been dealing with some serious health issues. I had a cancer scare of my own. And there are some things in my personal life that could have gone a little better, to say the least. And yet, I'm still thankful.

I'm thankful I found a guitarist and drummer who are both excellent and a lot of fun to work with.

I'm thankful I still have a job.

I'm thankful I don't have cancer.

I'm thankful that I'll be spending the next several months working on a new CD.

I'm thankful that I have a roof over my head.

I'm thankful I have enough to eat.

I'm thankful that I have the opportunity to do the work I love.

I'm thankful my family is healthy.

I'm thankful for the lessons. And for the fact they didn't take even longer to learn!

I'm thankful that anyone reads this blog . . . and that some get something positive from it.

I'm thankful for my friends.

I'm thankful that I have another chance to do better.

So. What's your list? I hope you'll take time between the feast and the football games to sit and consider all the things in your life for which you should be thankful.

My best to all of you.

And Happy Thanksgiving.

A Very Special Benefit

2006-10-05T09:44:00.001-05:00

Imagine you are two years old. You've already had several surgeries on your eyes. You've had your muscles cut and resewn. You've had your lenses replaced, only to have the new ones rejected. You've had your pupils sliced open because they wouldn't open on their own. And you still need more. Lots more.

Now, imagine you are Sidney's parents. You've spent everything you had to pay for the surgeries. You've sat up all night (time and time again) comforting your daughter when she doesn't understand why she can't see, or why her face hurts.

I don't have to imagine either scenario. As a child, I had several eye operations in an attempt to correct my double vision. I've lived my entire life dealing with a pair of eyes that just don't work right. And, as a father, I've sat and sweated in the waiting room while my daughter underwent surgeries of her own.

Why am I telling you all of this?

Because this Sunday (Oct 8), my band Deeper Blues will be performing as part of a benefit to help raise funds for Sidney's medical expenses. And I'm asking all of my readers to please send a donation to the fund that has been set up at a local credit union. Here are the details:

Benefit --

Sunday, Oct 8, 1-4PM
At Sarge's Banquet Hall
409 E. Main St.
Danville, IL 61832

Fund --

TeePak Credit Union
1035 E. Main St.
Danville, IL 61832
Make check or money order payable to:
TeePak Credit Union for Sidney Schaumburg Fund

If you can make it to the benefit - GREAT! There will be food, a cake walk, 50-50 raffles, and auction and more. A DJ will play music for the firs ttwo hours, and we'll go on at 3PM.

Even if you can't make it, please send a donation. Every little bit helps, so please send what you can.

Thanks in advance to all who participate. I appreciate your support very much. And I'm sure Sidney's parents do, too.

Torture is Wrong

2006-09-26T20:13:00.001-05:00

We've all heard far more than we probably wanted on this subject. But with what's been going on recently, I just had to weigh in.

Torture is wrong.

Period.

There can be no justification, no excuse, no argument, that excuses such barbaric behavior. If it is wrong for others to torture, then it is wrong for us. If it is wrong for others to hold people incommnicado, to punish them without a fair trial, then it is wrong for us.

I am constantly amazed at the rationalizations that supposed people of spirituality offer up to justify torture. Can someone please show me a passage -- any passage in any holy book -- that tells us that debasing a human life is OK.

The Bible tells us to "do unto others as you would have done to you." Well, I don't want to be tortured, and therefore do not want my country to torture in my name.

For those who use the Old Testament to justify their actions -- didn't Jesus bring a new testament? Didn't he teach us to love one another? To dissent peacefully? To work for social justice?

Doesn't count, you say? Gotta live by those old rules? Then why are we so up in arms that certain segments of the Muslim population wish to live by their old rules, their fundamental beliefs? And why aren't you out there stoning WalMart employees for working on the Sabbath?

Torture not only debases the victim, it debases the society that approves it.

I will never condone the torture of another human being. And I will no longer be silent.

Torture is wrong.

Memorial Day

2006-05-28T22:17:00.001-05:00

It's been quite a while since I made an entry here, three weeks, to be exact. Within the next few days, I'll post an entry addressing that. However, there's something more important on my mind.

Tomorrow, America remembers those who have died in the various wars she has fought. I ask each of you to take a moment to add your positive thought for those who have taken up the uniform, and laid down their lives in service to their country.

You may not agree with the justifications for one or more of the wars. I know I don't. But that doesn't matter. It's not about supporting war, in general or specific. It's about paying respect to those who were willing to place themselves in harm's way, offering their service - and their lives - to the society of America as a whole.

The first war to directly touch my life was Korea, although only after the truce had been called. My father spent a year there, working as an engineer. To the best of my knowledge, he did not know anyone killed or hurt during or after that conflict.

The same cannot be said for Viet Nam, where he served two tours, one as commander of a helicopter company, the other as the commander of an engineering battalion. I don't believe he lost any of his engineers - at least not to the war itself, although heroin may have taken one or two - but he lost many men during his helicopter tour, and many times many were wounded, and my father deeply mourned every one of them, accepting another weight of guilt for each loss.

My father almost never discussed his time under the gun. I can count the times he talked to me about it on one hand without the thumb. He did talk about non-military activities from those times, but not about the combat. In fact, there are things about my father's life - amazing and truly heroic things - that I learned from his friends and comrades-in-arms, a history that left me dumbfounded. The only time I ever asked him about one of the stories I'd heard, he dismissed with a wave of his hand. "It's not worth discussing," he said gruffly. "I just did what needed to be done."

"But, dad," I replied, "they say you're a hero."

"They say I am. I don't." He say quietly for a moment, but tensely. I could see his eyes first loose focus, as they do when a person drifts into their thoughts, the begin to well with tears. Finally, he continued: "You know who the heroes are? Those boys I had to send home to their mothers in boxes. They're the heroes. Honor them." With that he turned away and said no more. Ever.

Every year at this time, I remember his words. "I just did what needed to be done." I wonder how many of the fallen would say the same thing of their own actions? I think the percentage would surprise many of us. Thousands upon thousands who died in an attempt to save someone else, who placed the value of another's life above their own, and in so doing, acted in the only way their conscience would allow.

"They're the heroes,' he said. "Honor them."

And I do.

I hope you will join me.

I Quit!

2006-05-06T10:27:00.001-05:00

I realized today that I have yet to share some exciting news: I quit smoking! Go, me! <laughs>

When I wrote my New Year's resolutions, I didn't include quitting as one of them. I wasn't sure I'd be able to do it. Turns out I could. But it took a serious health scare. So far, it's been 37 days since my last cigarette. I still have cravings, but they're manageable.

If you're in quitting, feel free to check out my web site Diary of a Quitter. There are several essays, including the most recent one, Starting Over, which tells how I came to quit this time around. There's also a diary that I write to daily (and post every few days), tips and tricks to help you quit, articles on smoking, and some diversionary fun.

Religion Lite

2006-04-30T11:27:00.001-05:00

There's been something on my mind for the past several days: it seems that most people don't do much more than profess to be of one religion or another. They don't really live their faith; they just claim it - as if merely saying they're makes it so. That's not the way it works.

If you're going to claim to be a person of faith, you have to practice that faith. Day in and day out. Everything you do should be grounded in your faith. You can't simply apply the teachings when it suits you. And you can't ignore the divine until you need it (him/her/whatever). Going to church on Sunday doesn't make you a Christian. Living the teachings to the best of your ability - in each moment of your life - is what's required. God should be a part of your daily life . . . not hidden under glass until you decide you need His help. The teachings should infuse every decision you make, every action you take, every word or deed.

There's certainly more to be said on this subject. I'm still thinking about it, and letting it all gel. Today I'm going to start working on an essay on the subject. Once completed, I'll post it on the main site, and announce it here. Until then, perhaps this entry will spur you to think about it as well.

A "Must See" Movie

2006-04-27T20:28:00.001-05:00

I just received wonderful news I've been waiting to hear about a movie I've been hoping and praying would finish production. Peaceful Warrior will debut June 2nd. Based on the biographical novel, Way of the Peaceful Warrior, by Dan Millman, this is a definite "must see". Whether you've read the book or not, this is a movie that will certainly inspire you to live a better life.

I discovered Dan's writings for more than a decade ago. Since then, I've gotten to know him a bit, and have gotten to hear him speak. His encouragement early in my writing career helped give me the courage to continue. And I am honored that my essay, A Gift of Spirit was included in Chicken Soup to Inspire the Body and Soul®, for which Dan was associate editor.

Like all of Dan's books, ...Peaceful Warrior can change your life - and will, if you only let it. If you haven't read it, you may want to wait a bit before buying it (please visit Dan's web site to order), as there will soon be a special edition, a companion to the movie, which will include an author interview: From Page to Screen.

Peaceful Warrior is an independent release, and will first appear on the West Coast. It may take a while for it to come to your town, but I can fairly guarantee it will be worth the wait.

Religion and Politics

2006-04-23T21:09:00.001-05:00

Normally, I don't talk about politics much. My reason for this is that I don't feel the two should be mixed. My goal is to offer thoughts that might help others live a more spiritual, more fulfilling life. In order to reach the widest audience possible, I don't limit myself to a specific religion, and I don't bring politics into the discussion.

So why do it now? Because today, I read something I think everyone should carefully consider. The title of the piece is A Time for Heresy, by Bill Moyers. Mr. Moyers is the President of the Schumann Center for Media and Democracy. This article is actually the prepared text of his speech delivered on March 14 on the establishment by the Wake Forest Divinity School, of a scholarship in religious freedom in the name of Judith and Bill Moyers.

In his remarks, Moyers argues that our government is in danger of being taken over by, among other things, religious entities that would like very much to force others to think and act as they do. Personally, I'd much prefer they never got the chance. I strongly support each individual's right to practice the faith that best helps them to lead a good life. And I strongly support the separation of Church and State so that all of us continue to enjoy this right.

Thank you, Mr. Moyers for saying so eloquently that which must be said.

Read Moyers' remarks here.

Spiritual Shopping

2006-04-20T20:06:00.001-05:00

Think you're doing all you can for all people?. So why are you wearing that T-shirt made by a child who makes ten cents a day? Why are you using products made by manufacturers that are destroying the enviornment? Why are you drinking coffee that Starbucks® and virutally every other coffee company practically steals from those growing and harvesting it? Do you see what I mean?

Yes, I agree it's very difficult to be completely friendly to the environment, to buy products that are fairly traded, that don't use child labor or a virtual slave work force. Here's how you can change that and do better for your world and those who share it with us: Check out these companies.

Cafe Rebelion
Formerly The Human Bean, Cafe Rebelion buys only "fair trade, all natural, shade grown coffee from two Zapatista coffee co-ops; Mut Vitz (Bird Mountain) and Yachil Xojobal Chulchan (New Light of the Sky)."

Abundant Earth Catalogue
Offers a wide variety of environmentally sensitive products and services for people who want to make a difference in the world.

Celebrating Peace
Numerous products and ideas to help promote peace. Many suitable for children.

FaithWorks Global Gallery
Offeres unique and affordable gifts from around the worl that are fairly traded.

No Sweat Apparel
From their we site: "No Sweat defines the market for goods that support independent trade unions - the only historically proven solution to sweatshops. We market direct to consumers, relying primarily on internet sales for distribution. The savings in advertising offset our higher labor costs, enabling us to provide a competitive product and a living wage. . . Together we can show the garment industry what a real fashion statement looks like."

Equal Exchange
A worker-owned Co-op that only sells Fair Trade merchandise.

Ethical Threads
For UK shoppers that want to dress ethically.

Sweat X
Clothes with a Conscience.

Powell's Books
From their web site: "Powell's Books is committed to the strength of a well-informed community and supports numerous organizations working to ensure the unimpeded sharing of ideas and knowledge. Donating books, time and money, Powell's Books is a leader in the support of public schools and libraries, adult literacy programs, children's reading programs, free speech issues, and civil rights causes."

Union Wear
Ensures a living wage to all.

Union Jean & Apparel
From their web site: "We believe in the USA, the health of our economy, our unions and all of the benefits derived from being and buying American."

If you know of another web site that deserves a place on this list, please feel free to e-mail me. I'd be happy to investigate, and consider adding your nomination.

An Important Weekend

2006-04-16T08:57:00.002-05:00

For many, this weekend is among the most important in their religion. Today, Christians celebrate Easter. For Jewish people, it is part of the 8 day celebration, Passover. To any who celebrate either holiday, I offer my best wishes for a peaceful and pleasant day. And a meaningful one.

Servant First - Servant Always

2006-04-04T14:11:00.001-05:00

Some time ago, I submitted an essay to the Greenleaf Center for Servant-Leadership for consideration for their upcoming book of essays. In it, I paraphrased Greenleaf's philosophy, paring it down to 4 words: servant first - servant always. I've been thinking about this again lately, and have renewed my commitment to living my life in keeping with this imperative.

What about you? Whom or what do you serve? Do your activities promote a more harmonious world? Or are you too busy making sure you get yours to worry about anyone else? Where on the spectrum between absolute service and complete greed do you pitch your camp?

The closing words of my prayer - "Let me be an instrument of service that I may play my part in the grand design, for that is my greatest desire." - are a reminder that one of our most important jobs while we're here is to serve others. I find that focusing on the phrase servant first - servant always is a great way to keep me pointed in the right direction. I hope it will do the same for you.

A Very Special Benefit

2006-03-19T13:18:00.001-06:00

On Sunday, April 2, 2006, there will be a benefit for Chris Hopson at Sully's in Chantilly, VA. If you're in that area, I hope you'll come out and join in.

Chris is the son of the General Manager of the Sunset Grill in Annandale, VA. The Grill, as it is often called, has been home to some of the finest music in the Washington, DC area for many years. This benefit is to help Chris deal with the costs of cancer treatment.

The doors open at noon and there will be music all day long, provided by some of the finest bands the DC area has to offer. Among the acts already committed are Johnny Castle's Thrillbillys and the legendary Nighthawks. There will also be a buffet and BBQ, as well as raffles throughout the day.

Please help us help a good friend in his time of need. For more information, you can check out Johnny's web site. While there, check out the flyer with full information.

Thanks for helping. And create a great day!

A Dear Friend Passes

2006-02-26T15:37:00.001-06:00

Today, I received news that I've been dreading for some time. Dawn, a dear friend, has passed after a long battle with cancer. My deepest sympathy goes out to her husband, and to her many friends, who will all miss her dearly.

I first met Dawn in a Usenet group dedicated to quitting smoking. From the very first, I admired her as a person of compassion, with a desire to help others. I can't begin to tell you how many people she helped, but I can tell you she helped me time and time again.

In January, 2004, Dawn found she had contracted cancer. Although scared beyond words, she told the group about it and used it as a learning experience for all of us. Her predicament was a warning to us all about the dangers of smoking. Her grace under pressure was an example of how to handle such an ordeal. (In this, she was much like my father.) I joined numerous other friends in a "healing circle" to support her before and after her operation. We were overjoyed to learn that the operation and subsequent therapy was a success.

Unfortunately, the success was short-lived. The cancer came back and, this time, it won. Another healing circle was formed, and many others worked individually to support her. In the end, however, the best we could do was to send her love and warmth and help her prepare for the crossing we all must make. I will miss Dawn very much. Even though we never met face to face, she was an important person in my life. I will always remember her kindness, her compassion and her sincere desire to help others. I am honored that she called me "friend".

In her honor, here is a poem I wrote years ago for a friend after the loss of her mother. Step softly to the Light, dear Dawn. May it always shine warmly upon you.

The Parting

The wise one said:

My time comes softly to an end
Quiet comes the night
I think I spent my time here well
But it's time to say good-bye

A gift from Spirit you have been
An Angel taking flight
You'll fare, as always, very well
And I bid you fond good-bye

May you stand softly in the Light

And her child answered:

Go softly just around the bend
To meet your spirit guide
I know you spent your time here well
Yes, it's time to say good-bye

My greatest comfort you have been
An Angel by my side
You'll also fare now very well
And I bid you fond good-bye

Now step softly to the Light

The Sanctity of Marriage

2006-02-11T10:07:00.001-06:00

I normally don't talk about politics. But, today, I did want to touch on the subject as it relates to marriage. I just don't understand why some people are so adamant in their attack on same sex marriages. It is beyond me how two people who love each other declaring that love and making their relationship "official" can be a threat to marriage as an institution.

Isn't divorce a greater threat to marriage? Consider that more than 50% of all marriages today end in divorce. This seems to me to be the real threat to marriage. Why aren't these same people attacking that?

Now, I'm not suggesting that a person stay in an abusive situation. Sometimes, the only way to deal with a deeply troubled relationship is to walk away. What I am suggesting is that people give up too easily in many cases. There are times when I believe that many people invest more effort in their careers than they do in marriage. And, to me, that's just plain wrong.

Yes, marriage can be very difficult. In fact, I believe it to be one of the most challenging things we all face. . . the other being parents. But when things get tough, that tells me that, often, we need to put more effort into the relationship - not abandon it.

Are there issues in your marriage? If so, then it's time to sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk. Not a fight, not a screaming match. A loving talk. Aggression is most often met with aggression or defensiveness. It won't help you solve your problems. It's important to talk openly - and calmly - about the issue as you see it, and how that makes you feel. Be honest, be frank. But come from a place of love. Ask for help solving the problem. And remember, it seldom turns out that a single talk is going to get the job done. Resolving serious issues takes time. Ask your partner for help in creating a workable plan to address things.

Don't expect these talks to be easy, either. Because they're not. They can be extremely difficult and emotionally charged. Don't let that stop you from doing it. A long-term relationship requires effort and deep commitment. Well, didn't you make that commitment when you decided this relationship was something more than a passing phase? Honor yourself by honoring your commitment - and have that talk you so desperately need.

The other thing that can be vitally important is to ask yourself, "what's my part in this? What am I doing to contribute to the problem?" If you aren't willing to look at yourself, you take away the opportunity to be a part of positive change. It isn't easy to engage in this level of self-honesty, but it often is the difference between finding a solution and watching the problem get worse.

My final thought is this: If you can't resolve the issue alone, seek help. Find a good relationship counselor or therapist. There are many avenues you can explore and only you (and your mate) can decide which is best for you. Don't let embarrassment keep you from seeking help. I promise you that you aren't the first couple to need guidance.

If we truly want to honor the sanctity of marriage - and of all long-term relationships - let's start with the greatest threat to them: The willingness to give up too easily.

Create a Great Day!

Back After Long Absence

2006-02-09T11:00:00.001-06:00

Sometimes, time really does fly. I apologize for the length of time since my last post. I've just been very busy.

First, I had to prepare for - and attend - the largest trade show in my industry. (My "day job" is with Eden Electronics, which makes the finest bass amplifiers on the planet.) I spent many hours getting everything ready for the show and then spent a week putting in twenty hour days. Obviously, that's a lot of work but it was well worth it and everyone involved decreed the show a huge success.

Second, I became very ill on the day I flew home. Chalk it up to being extremely overworked and the fact that my immune system had been beat to death. I spent the following week recuperating.

Third, I've since been working hard to catch up on everything. Several times I told myself I need to do another entry here, but I just kept running out of time.

I'm happy to say that I am now fairly caught up and am able to allocate time for blog entries. I'll be back in a day or two with a new post. Thanks to those who emailed to check on me.

Create a Great Day!

The Voice Within

2006-01-11T18:21:00.001-06:00

We all have questions.

Why are we here?

What's the meaning of it all?

What comes next?

We all seek answers. But, most of the time, we seek outside ourselves. I'd like to suggest another alternative: Seek your answers within.

If you believe as I do, that everything is connected, you already know you can access universal knowledge by seeking within. When we're quiet, calm and attentive, we can hear the voice within us - the voice that can answer our questions about the meaning of existence, about how to live a better life.

When the questions burn in your mind and the answers aren't forthcoming, look within. Find a quiet place, do some deep breathing to calm yourself, perhaps meditate for a short time. Once you've centered yourself, focus on your question. Don't attempt to force an answer; just open yourself to receiving whatever you might hear or feel. Listen with your heart - and your spirit.

Another way to access answers using your inner knowledge is to literally sleep on a problem. When you lie down for the night, bring your question to the front of your mind. Tell yourself that you're going to allow your heart, mind and spirit to work on the problem for you while your asleep. In the beginning, you may not wake up with an answer or solution. But, with practice, you'll find that you often wake with a new perspective.

Obviously, this entry only scratches the surface. There's a lot more to be said (or written). But I hope that by putting this in front of you, I've aroused your curiosity enough that you'll explore this very useful way of answering the questions we all ask.

One last note: On my web site, you'll find a poem on this subejct. Feel free to read So Many Questions.

Now You Can Subscribe

2006-01-08T10:01:00.001-06:00

Yesterday, I added subscription buttons to the right sidebar. Now, you can easily add this blog to your Yahoo and Goggle home pages. If you'd like to add it to a different service, click on the orange and white "Newsfeed" logo botton. That will take you to a page that offers several other options.

New Year Off to Good Start

2006-01-04T22:49:00.001-06:00

Knock on wood - so far, so good.

Sure, it's only been a few days. But, so far, the resolutions seem to be going well.

Today, a friend asked me if I was doing anything special to help keep my resolutions in mind. Well, not really special. Helpful, perhaps, but not special. Here's a few things I'm doing to help the resolutions stick:

1. I wrote them down. I've got a few notes around the place to help me remember, and I've made some notations in my day planner. Reading them throughout the day helps keep them in my mind.

2. I told others. By writing them here, and telling some close friends, I've put it out to the world. I've noticed that telling others gives a person one more reason to live up to their commitments. It seems it has to do with not wanting to "lose face" in front of friends.

3. To help myself eat healthier, I've gotten rid of a lot of my favorite junk food. It's a lot harder to eat bad stuff if it's not in the house, you know?

4. Instead of trying to change a bad habit (poor eating habits), I'm developing a new, better habit to replace the old behavior. Instead of saying, "I won't drink sodas anymore," I said, "I'm going to drink more water." Instead of "I'm not going to eat free-toes," I said, "I'm going to eat more fruit and veggies for snacks.

As I said, not special, really. But I've found these few things to be of help.

So far.

I'll let you know how it goes...

New Year's Resolutions

2005-12-30T01:28:00.001-06:00

It's that time of year again - the time when most of us make a commitment to do things better (or different) in the coming year. This year, I'm writing my list on paper and putting it on the wall next to my desk as a constant reminder. I hope that, by doing so, I'll do a better job of creating the habits required to actually keep my resolutions.

Here's my list of resolutions for this year:

1. To eat healthier.
2. To exercise more.
3. To practice more, both on bass and baritone guitar.
4. To begin reording for a new CD.
5. To complete my book proposal and get it to an agent.
6. To continute to focus on reducing my debt load.
7. To be better organized.

This year, I plan to drink fewer sodas and more water. I plan to eat more salads. I intend to exercise every day, rotating between two or three different types of exercise.

This past year, I haven't spent as much time on my instruments as I'd like, and intend to change that. I've also worked toward recording a new CD for the past two years, and intend to complete the project this year.

When I began this blog a few months ago, I wrote that I had returned to a book idea, and I intend to work on that and send the proposal to an agent before the end of the year.

While my move to my new hometown slowed my debt reduction plan, it didn't kill it completely, and I will continue to focus on that this year.

I've always been what a close friend calls "organizationally challenged". It's something I have to really concentrate on to avoid being ineffective. Over the past several months I've made good strides in this area, and will continue to focus on doing better at this.

There's one other resolution, but it's rather personal. I'm only mentioning it to keep it as part of the list, albeit a hidden part.

I look forward to a happy, healthy and productive 2006. I hope the same is true for you.

Merry Christmas, Happy Hannukah

2005-12-25T07:15:00.001-06:00

For those celebrating today, I'd like to extend my best wishes for a wonderful - and meaningful - day. In between the opening of presents and the feast, I hope you'll take the time to think about the true meaning of the day.

I also hope you'll take the time to say a prayer for those less fortunate. There are many who will not eat today, who will not open a present, who live in shelters or cardboard boxes down by the river. Remember them, for they are your brothers and sisters.

"I assure you, when you did it to one of the least of these my brothers and sisters, you were doing it to me!"

Peace on earth...good will toward all...

My Letter to Santa

2005-12-23T23:07:00.001-06:00

Dear Santa,

I did the best I could. Obviously, I haven't been perfect; if I were, I wouldn't need to be here. But I have done my level best to be as good as possible. I hope you'll agree that I've been good enough. . . good enough to deserve a present or two. So, here's my list for this year:

Give every man woman and child a home and enough to eat.

That's really all I want, because I have everything else I need - a nice home, a great job, people to love who care for me in return. And, as far as stuff goes, I've got more than enough.

I'll leave the cookies and thermos of coffee in the usual place. And some carrots for the reindeer.

The Journeys of Socrates

2005-12-18T13:14:00.001-06:00

Dan Millman is one of my favorite Personal Growth authors. I've been reading his books for more than a decade, and think I've read just about everything except his children's books. His latest is The Journeys of Socrates, which is a prequel of sorts to his best-selling (and perhaps best-known) Way of the Peaceful Warrior and Sacred Journey of the Peaceful Warrior.

All three of the above titles are fictionalized accounts of Dan's life and that of his most important Mentor. Unlike many of his other books, which are "guidebooks" to living a more spiritual, more fulfilling life, these are written in story form. Dan's a fine writer, and tells an excellent tale. In addition to being entertaining reads, each of them contains some excellent wisdom.

If you haven't read the Peaceful Warrior series, I recommend you start at the beginning with Way of the Peaceful Warrior, continue with Sacred Journey, and leave the book on Socrates for dessert. I highly recommend all three. In fact, I recommend you read everything the man has written. Regardless of your faith, you'll find tons of helpful advice on living a good life.

Reading Dan's Peaceful Warrior books is what gave me courage to write about my own life. As I've said before, it's not like I'm some shining example of saintly living. I've made share of mistakes, and then some. I do hope, however, that I've learned from them and used those lessons to do better moving forward. I also hope that, by being open about my own experiences, I can help others avoid some of things I've done or, perhaps, to see their own choices in a new way that will help them rise above them in a more positive way.

By the way, Dan was also an Associate Editor on Chicken Soup to Inspire the Body and SoulÂ®, which includes my essay, A Gift of Spirit. This is the story of how an accident, which almost took my left eye, helped me better understand the spiritual essence of playing music. For information on how to order a signed copy, visit my main web site.

An Excellent Holiday Gift

2005-12-15T19:12:00.000-06:00

Here's a gift you can give that really does keep on giving. And it's a gift that can change lives.

I just read an article about Kiva, a non-profit organization that connects givers to needy businesses in Africa. Through this organization, you can make a micro-loan - as little as $25 - to an entrepreneur in Uganda, Kenya or Tanzania. Once the loan is paid back, you can turn around and loan it to another business. This means your initial gift can help someone again and again.

The UN has been trying to promote microcredit for some time, going so far as to name 2005 the International Year of Microcredit. Unfortunately, however, most companies involved want to make a profit. And microcredit so far has been an unprofitable business, at least in Africa. Enter Kiva.

Kiva is a non-profit organization that is funded by a group of well-to-do philanthropists in the San Francisco Bay Area and neighboring Silicon Valley. Because of this, Kiva is able to let every dollar loaned through them pass directly through to the entrepreneurs. Now, how cool is that?

I hope you'll take a moment to take a look at Kiva's website. Even more, I hope you'll contribute to their efforts. What a wonderful way to celebrate the holidays.

Holidays: It's More Than Just Christmas

2005-12-12T17:03:00.000-06:00

OK, here we are, smack dab in the middle of the holiday season. And, once again, I find myself wondering about those who attempt to force their holiday on others. Yes, Christmas is coming. And for many, it's an extremely important religious holiday, more than just a chance to get presents.

The thing is, there are other major religious celebrations going on during this time as well. And there are those who, for one reason or another, don't celebrate a "holiday" during this part of the year. So why do some feel the need to try to force others into acting as if Christmas is the only holiday and that everyone should be celebrating it?

Now, for many, if not most, it is a celebration of Christmas. But not for all. Some celebrate Hanukkah. Others celebrate Kwanzaa. Still others have already celebrated Ramadan...for an entire month! Let's not forget Solstice. Or those who have no specific winter celebration as part of their spiritual or religious path.

Here in America, we're supposed to have freedom of religion. We are not supposed to be forced into any particular religious mold. And I support this completely. It is not my right or obligation to force others to believe as I do. Neither is it the right of anyone else to tell others how to worship or what to believe. Or celebrate.

Many of our worst wars have been fought in the name of religion when, in fact, virtually every religion has a prohibition against killing. Most religions also preach tolerance of the beliefs of others.

I believe that we all need to be tolerant of other's choices in terms of spirituality and religion, as long as they're not preaching death and destruction to "non-believers". And, as you've probably already figured out (at least, if you've visited my web site), I believe that we can all live in greater harmony if we practice tolerance and respect.

Christmas is a celebration of the birth of Jesus. He was the ultimate pacifist. He taught that we should all show respect and compassion to others. Wouldn't it be wonderful if all who claim to follow him were to at least attempt to follow his teachings?

If you celebrate Christmas, I hope it is a joyful - and meaningful - day for you. But I sure won't force you to celebrate it if it isn't part of your spirituality.

Happy Holidays!

The Holiday Spirit

2005-11-27T12:13:00.000-06:00

The holiday season is now upon us once again. For most Americans, this means celebrating Christmas, even if they aren't Christian. And along with that comes holiday shopping. This is where the "rubber meets the road", so to speak.

Every year at this time, I marvel at people's attitudes. Short tempers, rude behavior, belligerent exchanges, fights over parking spaces and more. It never ceases to amaze me that so many celebrate the birth of one who sacrificed his life to preach love and compassion by acting in complete opposition to those ideals.

This year, I'd like to ask you to really think about that. Keep the purpose underpinning all that shopping in mind as you navigate the malls. Remember what it's all supposed to be about.

When others are in a rush, all aggravated, remember to offer a smile backed by understanding instead of rising up to match their frustration.

When it's your turn to be checked out, remember that the poor soul behind the counter is a person, too, and treat them the way you'd want to be treated if you were the one having to deal with eleventy-twelve rude shoppers an hour. Smile at them and say, "it's ok. Take a deep breath. Then, take all the time you need. I'm not going anywhere."

When someone verbally lashes out at you, try responding with compassion. Say to them, "I'm sorry you're having such a tough holiday season. I hope it gets better for you."

In other words, really get into the holiday spirit. Then spread some of that spirit to those who so clearly demonstrate that they need it.

I think that, if you try it, you'll find yourself in a different world entirely.

Happy Thanksgiving

2005-11-24T02:27:00.000-06:00

I would like to take a minute to offer my best wishes to all for a wonderful - and meaningful - Thanksgiving.

By "wonderful", I mean that I hope you have a great day, filled with good food, good friends and family.

By "meaningful", I mean that I hope you take the time to actually consider your life and be thankful for the good things about it.

Do you have a roof over your head? Be thankful.

Do you have food to eat, clothes to wear? Be thankful.

Do you have a job? Be thankful.

Someone once said that "[h]appiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have." So take a moment today to appreciate the good things in your life. And be thankful.

Change

2005-11-20T19:29:00.000-06:00

The important thing is this: to be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become.
Charles Du Bos

Once we've learned a certain way of behaving, we have a hard time changing. Oh, we don't mind changing external things: jobs, locations, clothes. But we have a hard time effecting change within ourselves. We don't like admitting that we could do something different, something better, than what we are doing now.

I am just as guilty as anyone of having difficulty making changes in myself. There are times when it flat-out unnerves me to consider changing. There are times when a friend points out something about me that could be better, and it hurts my pride. But part of being a better person each day is to recognize the things about ourselves that could use some improvement, and then working on changing what is wrong, what could be better.

When I'm objective about it, I can see there are things I could do better, ways that I can improve myself and be a better person. It has taken me a long time to learn that I don't have to beat myself up - that, instead, I can acknowledge my fault and commit to doing something positive about it. And I'm still working on this one.

I know that I can be a better person, a better version of me. Changing for the better isn't about "pretending" to be something you aren't. It's about working to be something better than you currently are. And I know that when my friends find the courage to point out something about me that could use improvement, they are doing so because they care.

Today, with this post, I am acknowledging that there are things about myself that I want to make better. I am saying Thank You to those who've had the courage to tell me things that may not be easy to say.

Small Things, Great Love

2005-11-08T23:33:00.000-06:00

Mother Teresa said, "We can do no great things; only small things with great love." How true that only a very, very few of us will achieve truly great things. But we can certainly change our little corner of the world for the better. And that can be a great thing!

Each small act of kindness, each little display of compassion, each quiet smile, helping hand or kind word. . . these are the things that make our world a better place. This is how you do small things with great love.

Just think how much better our world would be if each of us chose to do small things with great love. Every one of us. Every day. Every chance we get.

Note: My sincere thanks to theladybug for reminding me of Mother Teresa's words. And for sharing with me a unique and wonderful outlook on this subject.

Still Catching Up

2005-11-03T10:24:00.000-06:00

I just wanted to take a minute to let everyone know I'm still alive. Things have been a bit crazy lately but are finally settling down somewhat. I've now got new transportation...after my old van breaking down yet again. It's nice to have dependable and decent looking transportation. Nothing fancy, but it fits my needs and that's all I wanted. I don't really go in for "showy" vehicles much.

Anyway, I hope to get back to regular posts this weekend. Look for something new and worthwhile no later than Sunday. And thanks for sticking with me.

Time Flies When You're Sick

2005-09-25T12:30:00.000-05:00

It's been almost two weeks since my last entry here. I've been fighting a cold for much of that. I don't get them often, but when I do, they hit me hard.

I've heard from both Anthony and Dale since their return to the New Orleans area. While the damage to their homes is severe, they are both staying and beginning the process of clean-up. Both are in very good spirits.

Not a lot else to say at the moment. Still getting back on my feet. But I'll be back in a day or two.

Until then, live well.

Musicians Helping Musicians

2005-09-13T11:58:00.000-05:00

Relocation and dealing with tragedy are never easy. For working musicians, it can take months to develop a productive network and find work. Thankfully, New Orleans musicians have a lot of friends in Houston willing to help.

If you know a musician displaced by Katrina, have them contact NOAH - New Orleans and Houston. They have set up a website to help coordinate their efforts.

NOAH is operating under the umbrella of the Musician's Benevolent Society, a non-profit group based in Texas. Their staff of volunteers is working to help provide housing, relocation assistance, loaner instruments and gear, and help finding work. If you can offer support - money, time, gear, whatever - please contact them immediately.

Stranded's Last Stand...For Now

2005-09-11T11:41:00.000-05:00

Tonight is Stranded's last gig before Dale and Anthony head back down to New Orleans to assess damage to their homes - and their lives. I finally had a chance to download a few pictures taken Wednesday night at The Shovelhead Saloon. Below is a shot of (left to right) Tony, myself, and Dale.

Thanks again to all who have come to the gigs and shown their support. Also, many thanks to Charlotte's for having us out yesterday afternoon for a lunchtime gig. The owners have already asked the band to play every Friday night through the winter if Dale and Anthony come back to Danville. Although it's too early to tell what will happen, it sure is heartwarming to know we have a permanent gig if they come back.

Stranded Enters the Final Stretch

2005-09-09T10:17:00.000-05:00

Well, here we go. We're headed into the weekend and have performances scheduled for tonight (at the Shovelhead Saloon) and tomorrow night (at Pla-Mor Lanes in Hoopeston).

Community support remains very strong, and the band has generated local media interest. Wednesday night, Dale and Anthony were featured in a spot on the ABC Channel 15 Evening News (Champaign affiliate). Thursday, both the Danville Commercial News and the Champaign-Urbana News-Gazette ran stories featuring the band.

The News-Gazette story appeared on page 3 and included a picture of the band performing at the Shovelhead Saloon. The Commercial News story was a front-page (above the fold) feature on Katrina survivors in Danville. This story began with Stranded, and included two pictures from the same gig - one of the band and another of Dale. You can read the story here.

A huge THANK YOU to all who have come out to our shows and shown support for Dale and Anthony. They both appreciate it very much, as do I. A special thank you to Mary Wicoff of the Danville Commercial News for getting us into the paper - not once, but twice! - and for giving us the most prized placement possible for Thursday's article. Thanks to the News Brief in Wednesday's paper, more people came to that night's show. If we're lucky, the Thursday article will help generate even more interest for this weekend.

More on Katrina

2005-09-07T13:19:00.000-05:00

Well, it's been a busy few days since my last entry. Dale and Anthony have found several more gigs in the area and we've been working hard to get some attention from local media to help the cause.

The band now has a name: Stranded. We all thought it was appropriate. Sunday, the band played at The Shovelhead Saloon, and we're appearing there again tonight, and Friday night. Monday we got to do a one-hour set between two other bands at Julee's Shooting Star in Westville.

We've got one final gig before Dale and Anthony attempt to go back home for more salvaging. Saturday, we'll be at the Pla-Mor Lanes bowling alley in Hoopeston (about 40 minutes north of Danville). In all, we've managed to find six gigs in nine days. That's pretty incredible, and it goes a long way toward helping Dale and Anthony get their lives back together.

Early next week, my two new friends will attempt to go home to better assess the damage and to see if they can salvage more personal and professional belongings. Dale has a pest control business; Anthony is a landscaper. Although still unsure, they may come back to Danville until they can return home for good. There's just no way of knowing until they can see with their own eyes what the storm has done.

So far, the response has been terrific. Not only have the owners of these venues been willing to shoehorn the band into their schedules on short notice, the audience support has been fantastic. We'd all like to thank the entire Danville community for their support. It's been very heartwarming to Dale and Anthony, I can tell you. In particular, we'd like to thank:

Wheeler's Uptown Tap
The Shovelhead Saloon
Julee's Shooting Star
Pla-Mor Lanes
The Danville Commercial News
Champaign-Urbana News-Gazette
ABC Channel 15, Champaign
C&D BBQ

Please keep Dale and Anthony in your prayers for the next few days, ok? In some ways, the worst is yet to come . . . when they return home to assess the damage.

Overcoming Tragedy

2005-09-03T11:18:00.000-05:00

Last night, I did a pickup gig with two Katrina refugees. Dale (guitar) and Anthony (drums) left New Orleans on Sunday, stuffing everything they could into a pickup truck and heading north. Anthony's lady lives in my town and they came here to wait out the storm. When they realized they wouldn't be able to go back for some time, and had lost most of their gigs, they began to scrabble for work.

I got a call from them Thursday night. I almost didn't do the gig, because it was a short notice thing, and only paid tips. (It's been a long time since I worked for tips alone.) But when Dale mentioned New Orleans and what had happened to the two of them, I decided to do it just to help them out. And I'm so glad I did.

What impressed me most was the fact that, instead of sitting around bemoaning their fate, they were doing their best to rise above the tragedy and move on with their lives. Anthony had to spend his last money to buy another drum set (his current set wouldn't fit in the truck if they were to bring anything else). No complaints...just the comment that he was grateful to be able to play and make some money. They both have many family members and friends they haven't been able to contact since the hurricane. Again, no complaints...just prayers for the missing.

I was also very glad to see the outpouring of support from the audience. Virtually everyone in the club put money in the tip bucket. At the end of the night there were several fives, tens, even twenties. I also saw many people drop wads of singles. The bar owners, who were under NO obligation to pay anything, contributed $100. I spoke with several patrons throughout the night who were as impressed as I was with Dale and Anthony for digging in their heels and refusing to give up. And I think the attitude these two displayed had a lot to do with the size and amount of the tips received.

More than anything, last night was an object lesson in overcoming tragedy. It reminded me of things my father taught me over the years. Sitting around and crying about the challenges in one's life does no good. Of course, watching your home be covered by flood waters, knowing your life has literally sunk into the ocean, is going to hurt. It's extremely difficult to deal with, to say the least. But giving up isn't dealing with it. Getting back on your feet and moving forward is. Putting aside your troubles and doing what you can - and doing it to the best of your ability - is dealing with life's tragedies. And that's what Dale and Anthony did last night.

To quote my own poem, which I wrote to honor my father and his lessons:

He said, Life is like that son, you go with the flow
You do what you do, you know what you know
Life is today, just here and now
Life is like that sometimes, life is like that somehow

So, the next time life hands you a challenge, I hope you'll remember this little story about Dale and Anthony. I know I will. I can't tell you how happy I am to have met them.

Charity Auction for Katrina Victims

2005-09-02T08:12:00.000-05:00

The American Red Cross has partnered with Charity Folks and Morgan Freeman to help raise funds for victims of Hurricane Katrina. The Oscar-winning actor, who's home in the Mississippi Delta escaped the brunt of the hurricance has worked tirelessly with other entertainment celebrities to bring the auction online as quickly as possible. A sneak peak at the Charity Folks web site includes the following prizes:

Attend the premiere of Morgan Freeman’s upcoming movie An Unfinished Life, which co-stars Robert Redford and Jennifer Lopez.

VIP tickets to Fashion Rocks which will feature performances from David Bowie, Destiny’s Child, Duran Duran, Alicia Keys, Tim McGraw, Billy Idol, Gwen Stefani, Joss Stone and Rob Thomas, just to name a few.

Two cross-continental first class tickets on Virgin Airlines.

An exclusive getaway at the fabulous Four Seasons Hotel in New York.

Tickets to be in the studio audience at That 70's Show and a script signed by the cast.

Four luxurious nights in a Prince Suite at the Princeville Resort in Kauai.

VIP tickets to the Jimmy Kimmel Show with passes to the "Green Room" and a picture with Jimmy.

An afternoon on the set of "Drake and Josh" (Nickelodeon)

Bidding opens at Noon (Eastern Time) today. Visit Charity Folks to take part in the auction.